Just once in a while I'd like someone else to...

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Do the washing up after I've cooked. Oh, and maybe cook.

Exoticfruits I think my Dad used to say it a bit tongue in cheek! And she did absolutly adore him but she did do every single thing for him.

Time to break the mould then!

I cook and wash up as i make no mess, when someone else cooks and destroys the kitchen they have to clean up, works for me and the teenagers. actually much as i moan about the ex he is a better cook than me and did clean up, i cant wait for my my kids to leave home, i am
never going to cook again will be microwave meals and beans on toast all the way, i hate cooking.

You have to be firm. I have a rule that says I won't ever cook the next meal if the pots from the last one are not cleared.

Sounds a good rule DeathByTray- easy for anyone to implement if they have a DH who doesn't do it- or thinks that their job finishes at 6pm but the SAHM never finishes hers.
I would just go away for a weekend and leave them with the children, the cooking, the lot.

I never understand why people start like that- if you have always done things for him then of course it is going to be more difficult to change. It doesn't mean you have to carry on.
Tell him he is washing up. If he doesn't then leave it. When there is no meal the next night tell him that you can't start until he has washed up from the previous night.

Problem is he says he'll get round to it when I ask him. Then will do a bit and give up when he gets bored. I can't stand to leave dishes/pots in piles by the sink I'm a bit OCD that way

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I know she can't stand dirty dishes so I'll rinse a couple and then leave the rest for her.

Buy a dishwasher, tel dh it is his toy, you don't know how to use it so he has to learn.

The problem is that you give up waiting for him to get around to it. Wait.

exoticfruits, whenever I see your name on a thread that makes me think then I know the chances are I can just type:
'What exoticfruits said'
Like this one.

A) you do not have a bit of a serious mental health disorder. You are either struggling against a debilitating condition or you don't like mess.

B) you're married to a lazy man child.

Yabu, woman up and sort it.

Several people have agreed with me recently- it is quite unnerving!

The man says 'he will do it when he gets around to it' - it is quite simple- get a big box - put it in- label it- 'for DP when he gets around to it'- and leave.

Do something. Anything.

I would like someone else to feed the cats. I seem to be the only person in the house who cannot ignore the sad chorus of three wailing feline overlords. They run to the kitchen every time I stand up and can hear a tin being opened three streets away. Once the biggest one managed to get in our bedroom at 5am and started patting my closed eyes with his claws to wake me up.

Ooh yes Lydias. My lot complain that the cat food smells. Sparkling Cat doesn't even bother to ask them for her dinner any more- straight to me.