to think MN can help you articulate your frustrations?

[NotYoMomma]

I find myself saying 'well DH, it is unreasonable because...'

amongst other things.

he used to do the Charles Saatchi school of apology 'I am sorry that you are upset by that' rather than 'I am sorry that I have behaved in a terrible way and have upset you.'

I used to get so frustrated but feel that reading through rationalised debate all day every day curse you MN app has helped me to express WHY I am frustrated and tell him so.

he is now much improved

also, my inner rage beast has made less of an appearance. In the past during conflict I would be raging 'ARGH WHAT A MASSIVE KNOBHEAD!!!!!' when referring to bil

DH always said stuff like 'well you don't like him anyway so you are wrong'

whereas NOW I Can say 'bil is a massive knobhead because x,y and z' (as I did today after he badmouthed me)

and DH said 'I agree, you have a point!' and proceeded to join team NotYo

MN May have saved my relationship by being entirely too reasonable

I have talked on here (under a name change) about my relationship with SIL.

When an argument erupted last week I had the advantage of knowing what I wanted to say, how I wanted to come across & also stayed calm & rational.

SIL was in tears & I was also able to see her point of view thanks to a devils advocate on a previous thread.