To be a bit hmmm about this situation regarding man pants

[JaffaMyCake]

My little cousin is currently at my house in tears following a massive row with her housemate over the fact that her boyfriend accidentally left a pair of pants on the bathroom floor. I've been to her house and let's just say it is not a tidy place, however cousins housemate has gone apoplectic and said she didn't agree to live in a house with men and doesn't appreciate finding "evidence" of them being around .

She's being a dick isn't she?

I wouldn't want a man's dirty grots on MY bathroom floor. ESPECIALLY not a man who didn't even live with me. I don't blame the housmate for being upset. That's rank and he overstepped the mark. He's a guest.

I don't think she's being a dick at all. Maybe he's there too much? It's aggravating when you flatshare and one of your housemates has her fella over too much. You can't relax.

Sounds like there might be more to this - if she's going mad because she didn't agree to living with men then maybe the boyfriend is there all of the time? It could be making her uncomfortable?

The housemate does sound a bit unreasonable to go off like that but this is usually the case when frustrations have been building for a while. I'd be tempted to think that either a) boyfriend is out staying his welcome, b) cousin and housemate have other issues besides boyfriend or c) housemate has some emotional issues regarding men, maybe there have been some situations in her past that she didn't think would be an issue if she lived with other females.

Sounds like they need a chat with someone as ref in the middle.

It's probably not the pants really.more to do with three people sharing a house but only two paying bills

Yeah, the boyfriend is probably overstaying his welcome constantly, and not contributing financially.

He should have picked his pants up!

I go mad at dp for leaving pants on the floor and I chose to live with him so the housemate is not bu

Your cousin needs to talk to housemate as its prob to do with too much of boyfriend bring around.

If the boyfriend is a guest then he should clean up after himself and not leave his dirty pants lying around. I would be upset too and feel really disrespected by a man treating my home like that.

Did they have an agreement about how often boyfriends could stay over/what they would contribute to bills? Odds are he is staying over too often, the flatmate feels invaded and resentment has built up and boiled over.

She's probably pissed off that he's using the hot water.

I wouldn't want to find pants on the bathroom floor, but its probably the straw that broke the camels back.

I'm with the housemate!

I would go mental if my roommate was leaving their underwear on the floor of a shared bathroom. I would go even more mental if they belonged to her boyfriend who was constantly hanging around, eating my food, using my loo roll, having noisy sex and generally just invading my personal space when I wanted to relax in my own home.