To be disgusted over this?

[Mosschops30]

My inlaws have the dcs overnight once a week and then every other weekend as ex h is living with them.

They have started buying clothes that ds2 (3) can only wear at their house, on occasion he has come home in 'their jacket' and Dh takes it off him at the door and takes it back.
Last week he came home with some of 'their socks' and was quite obsessed with making sure he didn't wear them and took them back

Today my CM said she is concerned that he's becoming quite anxious about his clothing and told her his grandmother had told him he couldn't wear a certain tshirt to her house (the CM)

Am I right to be livid?????? Or is this normal?

I think I have caught your sore throat Sheshelob

Surely if they buy clothes for your child theyre a gift for them to wear?Thats so petty,these are daddy house clothes so you cant wear them at mummys?What do they think you are going to do with them its pathetic.I woukd be really upset and aggravated if that happened in our family.A childs clothes are their clothes what does it matter,its like theyve given them uniform for different houses!Are they trying to highlight to your LO that theres an issue?

Similarly my in-laws have toys that dd is not allowed to take home. Toys given by other relations on that side. DH and I are still together but the in-laws can be very possessive of dd. even bought her duplicate Santa presents. Apparently I was wrong because Nana IS Santa...

FFS I honestly cannot believe that grown ups are arguing over childrens clothes.
surely they belong to the child. does it really matter if they get moved around from one house to another occasionally/
The mind boggles.

My ex does this....he's a twat.

Meant to add...I ignore it...life's too short xxx

I'm so glad you all think this is ridiculous, I can hardly believe it myself!!

I fully understand both parents having their own clothes in order to save packing a bag every time they have an overnight (if contact is frequent) but there is no need to take the clothes off him when he is going home.

It is also strange that they have a set of clothes for him yet he always returns home wearing what you send him in.

Yanbu op - they are emphasising a split or divide between you and this is unfair on your ds. I'm sure he is already aware of you being apart as it is - I also wonder if he hears his grandparents and dad discussing it in front of him I.e. "make sure you get that jacket off him before he goes in the house"

I so wonder how they would react if he became attached to one of the items - I'm just thinking about my dd - she is obsessed with a pair of flip flops at the moment and has even worn them to bed on one occasion. If dh and I were apart and he tried to take them off of her it would be carnage. Children get genuinely upset by issues that seem minor to adults

My neice has to endure the two wardrobes and back on a Sunday to mums in school uniform because none of the clothes ever came back. Week after week pick up Friday in school uniform and returned to mum in whatever she had been wearing with the school uniform washed and ironed( we know cos either me or our mum did that bit) Not one item ever came back from my brothers ex ... Seriously not one, and neice never got to wear the stuff again either ... So don't know where they were going..... DB now just gets her ready in the clean school Uni so she walks in wearing exactly what she wore out of the house to go to school on Friday. V sad. And weird. And another hassle that taints the end of the weekend. No consideration for the children's feelings and one of those situations that becomes tit for tat and loaded with emotion.
Anyway you need to discuss with your ex. The CM could do a note ( but if relationships that bad suspect Ex and the ILs will think you put her up to it anyway) so think its probably best if you try to have a word with Ex. And agree at least to have them leave his place wearing clothes they can keep on when they get to yours.