That this School Gate Mum is Rude

[threerings]

Waiting for my DC at home time today, I don't normally go into the School and wait as DC is at that "It's not cool mum" Stage. But wanted a lolly from the Mums selling them to raise some School Profits.
Anyways I saw one of the Mums who I speak to , As I don't really speak with a lot or any mums there, New to the school just recently. I go over and say hello to her and as I say it one of the other mums who I have not ever seen before says " O there she is the Lady of the night" to me!!! The other mum tells her not to be so rude, so the other mum repeats herself and says " What, I'm only saying she looking like a lady of the night"
Well it was awkward tumbleweed moment going on. I didn't know what it meant so just carried on talking. I got home and looked it up to see what it means, And I now feel as though she deserves a fooking slap the cheeky bitch. How rude.....

She blanked you today - hmm sounds like she is someone you don't need to waste time getting to know, nice of her to save you the effort before you found out further down the line.

She's obviously a bit odd, I wouldn't bother giving her any further thought.

If you are new to the area and its a small community then the born and bred there bunch can be real nests of vipers

I disagree with you when you say she knew exactly what she meant because she repeated. I bet if you'd known the phrase and said "You think I'm a prostitute???" she would have said no.

Re moving the cash till.

I know you don't want to think it might be racist, and there's a chance it isn't and I'll tell you why, because this also happened to me. I was new to a school mum friendship group, and when they went out they always had a kitty, everyone used to go to the bar with the kitty purse in turns.

On my turn, the self appointed 'leader' gave me a grave speaking to about how much was in there, that it had been counted etc etc., I was a bit but went to the bar, after I was done I returned the kitty purse with receipt! About an hour later this silly bint started openly accusing me of stealing the kitty purse, she couldn't find it, so I MUST have stolen it... it was all very upsetting. She found it 10 minutes later in her bag.

It could be that this woman is JUST a twat, that your race has nowt to do with it, maybe it is racial - either way the woman was being a twat.

You have to find it funny else you end up miserable or thinking everyone is that bad, you know you don't look like a prostitute, you know she was BU, and so does the lady who was there too. Try not to take it to heart.

I'm guessing if you talk to other people you will find she is generally thought of as a bit of a prat, i'd forgotten about the fact that she moved the money - pfffft just ignore her....waste of space.

I would concentrate more on the reaction of the other mum, who knew she was wrong and pointed it out, than her reaction, or you will drive yourself mad. Ignore her and try to talk to others.

Please, please, please go up to her tomorrow and say "excuse me but your husband owes me £50...again"

How deliciously obnoxious,she sounds like a bampot
You've clearly got chutzpah that you got her going
Knowing i annoyed her, I'd be inclined to ham it when I saw her

A little bit of jealousy on her part, you sound very stylish and confident. Some people have nothing better to do than judge.

I would have to call her on this. I'd say something like, "the other day you said you thought I looked like a prostitute. I didn't realise that was what your phrase meant at the time. I think you need to explain why you made such a hurtful comment".

Oh, and do it in front of witnesses.

Oh god no sassy response,yo sista it's wanky and IMO better play it cool

It occurs to me also that she means "ships in the night" meaning someone you don't see very often. Maybe you could ask her what she meant. My dd once called my best friend a "painted lady" because she had painted her nails with nail varnish. His idea of a friendly stupid joke but she has never forgotten it. It happened thirty years ago...

dd as in dear dad - not daughter!

Could you wear a phial of blood around your neck and bare toy vampire teeth at her when nobody else can see? Leave garlic on her car windscreen and move away muttering when you see a crucifix? Wait till the autumn and loom, unspeaking, out if the mist when it's just the two of you on the path?

Try and give her a full-scale nervous breakdown. By Christmas.

That'll learn her.

If you was wearing something that looked tart-ish then she was most likely making a very rude joke. However, what you was wearing sounds very 'respectable' so I suspect that she was making an innocent joke that sounded funny in her head and that no one else gets.

I just read the color comments. I think that the lady of the night comment was directed at the OP's color as opposed to her 'employment'

I've never heard anyone call someone a 'lady of the night' in reference to skin colour.

I would put money on her thinking it was another phrase (who knows which one!?!) and she got mixed up. I don't know exactly what she intended, it might be worse than you think or very much nicer!

I agree with those who say to follow this up, casually, bluntly and politely. I'd also speak to the other mum to get a better measure of what may have been intended.

I'm afraid that this sounds like a simple case of racism to me.

Please let us know what happens. Fascinated about whether she was well meaning and confused or just another bitch, really hoping shes nice and not all of the people out there who seem horrid actually are.

She sounds like a total arsehole. Just ignore her.

She sounds like a racist. Sorry. It's the sort of shit my FIL comes out with.

Given the comments and moving the cash box yesterday and the blanking today, I sadly think this woman is making assumptions, nasty ones, and possibly being racist too.

OP, Please don't think all school mums are like that. We're not.

I'm afraid that this sounds like a simple case of racism to me.

I agree

Wow, what a strange woman, just plain nasty and weird with it. Imagine behaving like this to someone you've never even met properly... It is just so incomprehensible.

Four weeks sounds exactly the right time for rumors to start flying, so I think you are being a little too kind in thinking otherwise!

But I don't get how this bigoted nasty woman could think that being openly insulting is acceptable - no random rumor justifies that... I would suspect that other people are just as shocked as you even if they know her weirdo reasons.

OP have you had a chance to speak to them yet?