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To ask the teacher for another house point?

18 replies

MrsPatrickDempsey · 08/07/2013 16:29

DS is 6 and his school operates the dreaded house point system where certificates are awarded for 10, 25, 50, 75 and 100 when they are gained. There are no set rules for the issue of house points and are allocated at the teacher's discretion.

Thurdsay is the deadline this year for certificates. He is currently on 99. I asked him what he could think of to do to get the last one but because they are awarded here, there and everywhere or not at all he was vague. If he hasn't got it by Wednesday WIBU to mention it to the teacher?

PS I really can't believe I am posting this because deep down I know IABU but he's only 6!

OP posts:
Onlyconnect · 08/07/2013 16:30

I wouldn't mention it. The teacher will notice wont she and decide whether to round it up?

Original poster
MrsPatrickDempsey · 08/07/2013 16:32

Hopefully!

Thanks (hangs head in shame)

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CloudsAndTrees · 08/07/2013 16:32

I would mention to the teacher that he's really keen to get to 100, there's no harm in asking. As long as he knows that he has to be have really well and work hard, it should be achievable.

Flobbadobs · 08/07/2013 16:33

Don't mention it! The teacher will more than likely notice anyone needing one more point for certificates and find a reason to give them one.
Can't believe primary schools have houses these days...

bearleftmonkeyright · 08/07/2013 16:34

Awww mention it . Yanbu Grin

Turniptwirl · 08/07/2013 16:35

Yabu

I'm sure the school have kids close all the time and decide what to do in these situations without you poking your nose in

I know he's only 6 now but will you do the same when he's 16 and one mark off a higher grade in gcse?

jan5 · 08/07/2013 16:36

He will get a certificate for 75 points wont he? I would chill - is it really that important and if so who to - you or him? Sometimes we have to step back and sweat the little stuff a lot less! He sounds like a really lovely boy, otherwise he wouldn't have 99 points so be happy and proud with what he gets.

squoosh · 08/07/2013 16:38

Oh dear! Embarrassing Mum alert!

MmeLindor · 08/07/2013 16:43

I remember coming home and saying to my mum that I got 98% in my exam and her asking 'What happened to the other 2%'.

I laughed it off, but 20 years later, it still rankles.

Rejoice in the 99 points, and celebrate his 75 point certificate.

Peacocklady · 08/07/2013 17:49

I'd tell him to ask the teacher politely himself if there's anything he can do for a point before the deadline. Then you don't look anything and he'll get his award.

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/07/2013 17:56

Don't be that mother. If he is bothered get him to ask what extra he can do to shine.

Tee2072 · 08/07/2013 17:57

Yes. What MmeL said.

wigglesrock · 08/07/2013 18:27

Please don't mention to the teacher. Your child has not earned enough house points, he may well do before the cut off on Thursday. Seriously he hasn't got 100 points, breathe - are you going to do this every time he doesn't get a maximum score/ grade? Sports day should be fun Hmm

bearleftmonkeyright · 08/07/2013 18:31

Can I just point out before the O P gets a.massive kicking

A. He is six

B. Op is well aware she is BU.

DustyOwl · 08/07/2013 19:02

I'm a teacher and I teach in year 1 and I wouldn't mind at all if you just casually mentioned he was so close, just as a gentle reminder. It's all in the delivery but, as was mentioned up thread, he is only 6. Then the teacher can catch him lining up/sitting quietly etc. It is only one point after all and it is so very important at that age.

Though I would say its probably best not to mention it in front of ds.

chesterberry · 08/07/2013 19:08

Don't ask! I am a teacher and although we don't have house points we do have one child in the class awarded 'star of the week' each Friday. Sometimes parents will drop hints to suggest that their child should be star that week when I talk to them and if I am honest if I am trying to decide between a few children who should be awarded the certificate I am far less likely to choose a child whose parent has hinted they should receive it as I don't want parents to think that by being pushy they have control over what happens in the classroom. The children should be awarded certificates/ house points, or whatever the school's reward is, on merit and because they deserve it. If your son does something which warrants a house point no doubt he will receive one and that should be as a result of good behaviour rather than because of his parents.

Also, as others have said his teacher is likely to notice which children only need a few points until they get a certificate and ensure she catches them doing something she can reward them for. Most teachers want the children in their class to achieve and do well, I know that I feel incredibly proud when my class earn certificates or similar achievements and if it was my class I would be trying my best to ensure children had enough points to receive certificates and looking out for good behaviour. It sounds like your son should be able to earn the point himself, if he has earned 99 points this year then he is averaging more than 2 a week so should be fine to get another by Thursday so long as he works hard, but if he doesn't get it as MmeLindor said, be proud of his 75 certificate :)

AuntieStella · 08/07/2013 19:13

"Can't believe primary schools have houses these days... "

I am so glad to be a bright young thing, for a change! (my primary had houses back in the 1960s)

missnevermind · 08/07/2013 19:23

Just say to the teacher when you drop him off that he thinks he needs another house point for a certificate, what does she think he can do for it?

Yes he is 6. These things mean a lot to children.

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