Back story: I have been quite poorly the last month with gall stone/ pancreas problems, and juggling that with a 6 month baby has been really hard going. My family are pretty useless at the best of times but I guess I have really noticed it lately because I could really have used some support. My sister only lives 3 miles away but hasn't visited for months. She knows how ill I have been She sends the odd 'Hope you feel better soon' text and thats about it. My mum has always been self absorbed...but didn't even call me to see how a scan went last week.
Why am I surprised? Its always been like this. I have tried to accept that thats just how they are, I have always been the one that phones/visits etc and generally keeps the relationships ticking along. Perhaps I thought it would change now its not so easy for me with a new DS. (And gall stones!)
Anyhow....for what ever the reason, I am currently really feeling hurt at their inability to be there at all for me. The point is - me and DP are getting married in September. Its turning into a bit of a nightmare since I don't even know well I will be then. I also just don't have the energy to be organising stuff at the mo so everything has slipped this last month. And to be frank, I suddenly feel why the hell should I invite my family to a reception I have spent a lot of money on so they can stuff their faces and then go back to pretending I dont exist? Im feeling pretty bloody fed up with them.
So, my question is, how bad mannered would it be to use my health issues as a reason to cancel the wedding, revoke reception invites, and bugger off with DP and DS and have a small ceremony with just us at some other point?
Or am I just tired, poorly and fed up and in need of perspective?
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To cancel my wedding and elope instead? Sorry - bit waffly.
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NewMumFeelGlum · 08/07/2013 09:52
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