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To be furious at poor hygiene

82 replies

PenguinBear · 06/07/2013 18:59

We are at a BBQ hosted by another family and he has just put the meat on the BBQ. He touched all the raw meat with his hands and has since poured the wine, touched the chair and then his face! I am a tad very neurotic about raw meat after a horrendous food poisoning incident while camping as a teen.

I don't feel I can eat anything or let the dc go near anything. What do I do? I feel v stressed ( I knows it's an over reaction) but what do I do?

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TSSDNCOP · 06/07/2013 19:15

If he touched the meat and had washed his hands first I can't see the problem. It's not like you've got to eat the wine bottle.

Wine and unclench.

SugarSpunSisters · 06/07/2013 19:16

I did think about putting 'barms' but thought no one would know what I meant, so it was a toss up between rolls and buns Grin and the buns won.

Disclaimer, this decision making process took a nano second, I wasn't agonising over it!

EvieanneVolvic · 06/07/2013 19:17

Grin sugar

Wallison · 06/07/2013 19:21

I don't think yabu at all, penguin, and I'm sure that pretty soon the part of his face that he touched will go all green and manky and fall off into the barbeque and then they won't be hassling you for being anal, will they?

Yorkie1990 · 06/07/2013 19:23

I'm making love to my OH right now, he just farted, do I carry on or is this bad form on his part?

Wallison · 06/07/2013 19:28

Best cut his arse off, just to be sure.

And then wash your hands.

EvieanneVolvic · 06/07/2013 19:30

I think Wallison's suggestion is bang on the money.

However if you want a less messy solution I (seriously) suggest you feign the illness you seem convinced you are going to get (so hardly lying at all) and leave before eating.

Sparklingbrook · 06/07/2013 19:30

It never occurred to me to studiously watch the host cook when invited to their home for food.

Report him to Food Hygiene and get him shut down?

EvieanneVolvic · 06/07/2013 19:31

I'm making love to my OH right now, he just farted, do I carry on or is this bad form on his part?

Clearly I have been on MN for way too long (albeit with different names) because I can entirely see the relevance of this, at first glance, wholly random post to the thread!

FuzzyWuzzywasaWoman · 06/07/2013 19:33

Start singing "When will I see you, again" as he serves you your burger.

Hanginggardenofboobylon · 06/07/2013 19:39

Have you ever been to a 'traditional' type butchers?! I think you would keel over on the spot, raw meat contaminated credit card anyone?!

Sparklingbrook · 06/07/2013 19:44

I used to work on the till in a bank. The butcher regularly paid in notes covered in blobs of meat.

At our local butchers where I grew up he had an Alsatian behind the counter who licked his hands between customers.

RubyThePirate · 06/07/2013 19:45

Lick his face.

It will be therapeutic.

BlessedDespair · 06/07/2013 20:44

Eeewwww raw meat esp. chicken and pork are very bad for you.

All it takes is for you to touch the chair after him and then touch your mouth and you risk illness.

TheOneAndOnlyReality · 06/07/2013 21:37

How do people go through life like this?

pointythings · 06/07/2013 21:58

I have to say when doing BBQ we are scrupulous about hand and other hygiene. It's just common sense. DH is American so BBQ is part of his culture, and it's just a part of his routine. You'd probably be OK with the wine though, but I wouldn't be happy if he were handling salads.

BackforGood · 06/07/2013 22:05
  1. You need to unclench
  1. You need to have a serious look at your manners - someone invites you to their home for a party / BBQ / social evening and you get your phone out and start MNing Shock. How incredibly rude.
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PenguinBear · 06/07/2013 22:35

I was alone in the garden supervising all the dc (theirs and ours) in the pool. I wasn't being anti social, there was no-one to chat to at the time!

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PenguinBear · 06/07/2013 22:47

Also, to those that said I was watching him so closely, he was quite far away and probably didn't know I was looking!

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aliasjoey · 06/07/2013 22:47

Just asked DH about BBQ we had tonight. He said he used tongs not fingers to handle meat

I then pointed out he used the same tongs to handle the cooked meat

He is defiant, though, and says cross-contamination very unlikely.

Jan49 · 06/07/2013 22:48

I think the person most at risk is him, the man that handled the raw meat, because he's got it on his hands and is likely to touch his face and eyes, whereas someone else would have to touch something exactly where he did in order to be at risk.

Someone I know ran a restaurant (not in the UK) and was careless about food hygiene, specifically about handling raw meat. He suffered permanent eye damage. I think it was Toxoplasmosis.

katykuns · 07/07/2013 00:26

furious? really?

OhDearNigel · 07/07/2013 00:57

I assume he's not a chef and therefore has no clue about cross contamination or food safety.

If you want your food to be prepared with scrupulous attention to food hygiene don't go to a friend's house. Or a restaurant for that matter.

BOF · 07/07/2013 01:03

I can just about get why you are bothered by him touching your wine glass, if it was at the rim. Even then, fresh raw meat is unlikely to make you ill.

I fail to see though, why it bothers you that he then went on to touch chairs and his face. You wouldn't be licking either, I presume?

Turniptwirl · 07/07/2013 01:03

Yanbu

Who thinks its ok to spread raw meat bacteria over everything including things which won't be cooked (which would kill the bacteria)?

Hope he gets food poisoning