Was I being hormonal and oversensitive? Can't tell.

[madonnawhore]

I'm 14 weeks pregnant and having a bad day today. Very tearful for no reason, tired, achy, bit of a sniffle...

Anyway I was looking at signing up for some NCT courses and said to DP 'if I sign up for courses that happen on weekend days, will you be able to come with me even if it's a weekend that we have DSD?' (Should point out here that we have DSD 50% of the time, and often more than that.)

Straight away he said no, he wouldn't be able to come. I got really upset and accused him of not making me and the baby a priority. Then he backtracked a bit and said he didn't realise I was only talking about two Saturdays, he thought I was talking about a course lasting several weekends in a row.

A case of miscommunication or is he an arse?

Well who would have your DSD

Think your being unreasonable to be honest

YABU.

Miscommunication

Can't you organise them on days when step daughter isn't around?

I'm guessing time with her is precious to him ( and hopefully you too )

Miscommunication I think. But having been a VERY hormonal pregnant person twice in my life I'll say YABU with

Not unreasonable, if DSD is with you half the time then a babysitter could be arranged for the hour or two you're at your class. Your pregnancy and your baby are important too.

The course is on fixed days so not possible to rearrange.

Her granny would be able to look after her for the few hours we're there.

I was just a bit hurt that time with DSD was seen as more important that attending our first ante natal class together. When childcare for DSD isn't a problem and we have her over 50% of the time anyway so DP is her primary carer.

Of course time with her is precious. But as I've said, DP is the primary carer so it's not like we only see her every other weekend for 24 hours. She was only at her mum's for 8 nights in June. She practically lives with us.

Miscommunication and a big dollop of hormonal unreasonableness on your part I'm afraid!

I would apologise and move on tbh.