to be crying?

[Hyperhelpmum]

5 months into a bad Hyperemesis pregnancy. BBQ for 30 organised today for DC as I was too ill to celebrate their real birthdays. Have done EVERYTHING. DH going to watch rugby from 11-1.30 leaving me to look after kids and prepare food. When I said you are bring a dick he said you are a cunt. I'm crying with frustration, anger, incredulity at his selfish/ vileness.

It's never unreasonable to cry. Also it's not very nice to be called a cunt.

He is totally vile. I used to be with someone who behaved like this - it's not healthy or normal for a relationship..

Yanbu. If I lived near you I would do the preparation for you but poison your husband's food so he gets an insight into what it is like to have HG.

YANBU

I'm so sorry. Do you have anyone who can come over early and help out?

Is your DH always like this?

Try to hold it together for your kids' sake, and have a proper talk with DH later....

I think the locks would be changed when he came home if that was my husband Absolutely unacceptable behaviour. Is he the father of your other children? Any other family members around who could come and give you a hand?

Why is it ok for you to call him a dick & not him to call you names back?

Just leave the kids with him while he watches the rugby & get on making food in peace?

What he called you isn't nice & totally unacceptable but it is the Lions - massive game so I'm sure he'll be back into the swing of things once its over.

Assuming he knew the dates clashed he is the selfish git (My user name tells you, that I wouldn't be having a BBQ this weekend).

Even if he didn't, you have been ill in the process of having his child, sympathy and help should be automatic.

The name calling is tit for tat.

I always read these threads and wonder, did the op decide herself to have the event or did she discuss it with the partner? Cos if he agreed it then he should be helping. If it was pushed upon him as were then I'd answer differently.

However op regardless you are not bu to cry. Just don't let it poison your day.

The OP said he was being a dick, that he was acting like one, not that he was one, small but important distinction.

Did he not say anything in advance about the rugby being on today?

You need to either;

-Contact someone who is coming to the BBQ to come early and help or

• cancel the whole thing

Your dh is being a dick.

Ps does he always treat you like a maid?

Ok so he is the father of two children, he did know about party, it's his sons birthday, I said he was being a dick ie idiot, he was. I went out for some space and he said if you don't come back that's us over. I went. He sent angry texts. I came back and explained it was a very sad state of affairs that he thinks it's about me against him, it's a joint effort to give our children and friends a nice day, not about not letting him watch rugby. Friends were fab and all brought stuff. DH suitably trite. Ok so I said he was being an idiot but he was. He knew about this. He was being a duck. He is a dick. Thanks for the support people.

Not duck, dick!!' I'm no longer crying. What can you do? Can't end a marriage for that. Well I could, but then I'd be as selfish as him.