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to think my PMT is not normal?

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 22:50

It's lasting a full 2 weeks now. I'm hopeless, no motivation. Nearly weeped this morning when DC didn't come in when asked. I feel like I loose all control. The house looks like it's been burgled, the DC had to make do with cheese on toast for tea, there's no shopping in. I just feel utterly useless, now I'll have a week of back cramps and feeling exhausted, then on to a week of feeling like superwoman, everything getting back to normal and sparkling, enjoying the kids, just in time for the cycle to start again Sad

What's happening?? I'm sure it never used to last this long...

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 22:57

I'm coming up to 30 if that makes a difference...

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 22:58

x-post!

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 22:59

I'm not on the pill....haven't been for 4 years. Don't like to take anything that might affect my hormones - worried that if I see the GP he will just suggest pill.

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labelwriter · 05/07/2013 23:04

You really have my sympathies, mine, until really recently was the same. I'm older than you at 42 but it was terrible and much worse after having DC. I tried changes in diet, lifestyle, every natural remedy going and went to see my GP and she prescribed a low dose of Prozac and it just changed my life. I now get a couple of days of PMT just before my period and that's it. It really was controlling life and I was sick of it. I know the AD route is not for everyone and it wasn't a decision I took lightly but it was the best decision I ever made.

SodaStreamy · 05/07/2013 23:04

Is there any possibility that it might be something else and not PMT? (mild depression?)

Thing is though if it related to your cycle you might find a 'chemical' solution helpful. Yes it will affect your hormones but in a positive way as the don't seem to be helping you at the moment.

Please chat it through with your GP as it is obviously effecting your qualuty of life

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:04

Hate that for half a year I hate my life Sad

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:06

I turn into horrid shouty mum, the kids must hate me.

It used to be just a couple of days, but it's just hit me that it's now lasting 2 weeks

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:06

I don't think it's happened overnight, it's been gradual... hence why I;ve just realised!

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:08

Also... I'm going to sound like a complete nut job now... when I feel like this me and DH argue a lot, often after an argument I imagine myself being hit by a car or collapsing. As in...wanting to be. Am I crazy?

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AnythingNotEverything · 05/07/2013 23:10

I used to have awful pmt. I'd want to send my ds for adoption and wondered what I saw in my DP!

I saw my go about that and the accompanying sore boobs, and she suggested evening primrose oil. I had to take a tablet daily them for 2-3 months to see any difference, but it really evened me out. I was down to a couple of irrational days rather than a couple of weeks!

I've had to stop now I'm pregnant, but will be back on them as soon as I can after birth!

They also helped my hair and nails grow strong.

Have a good chat with your GP.

mummymeister · 05/07/2013 23:11

no you are not crazy you need to go and speak with your gp though as you sound like something is out of balance ie hormones. you do not need to put up with this book up Monday and get some help and don't put it off because it wont just go away. good luck.

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:12

Thanks for all the replies

Having a really bad night!

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IfIonlyhadsomesleep · 05/07/2013 23:13

I know you don't want to hear this, but I could have written your post. I have a week or so after my period where I'm okay, then I get grim pmt like stuff as I ovulate and it doesny really go away until I get my period when it switches off like a light. I went to my gp and she prescribed the pill. That's the bit I guess you don't want to hear. Anyway, I sympathise, it's hideous and there must be more than just the pill to help. Do go and see doc-you deserve to feel better.

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:14

The frustrating thing is, I know how to pull myself out of this, I just can't seem to do it!

I should be in bed asleep by now, having cleaned and tidied the kitchen and put a wash on. But I'm not, and I haven't. I just can't bring myself stop slobbing on the sofa Blush

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:15

Do you think it might just be that I'm lazy and sometimes a bit miserable? It might just be a coincidence that it ties in with PMT!

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:16

For 1 week a month though I have all the motivation in the world. I feel I can conquer anything, I'm a fab Mum, nothing is too much bother. I just wish I could be like that all the time

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NotAroundTheEyes · 05/07/2013 23:19

Hi! I had a lapse into clinical depression at the age of 19 - a sort of slow burn of misery culminated in my collapsing in the uni GO surgery howling 'why won't anyone help me' and clutching her desk Hmm

She concluded (rightly, I believe) that my PMT was so calamitous, and so long, that it had triggered a depression. she likened it to post natal depression in its severity and duration.

I understand why you wouldn't want to take the Pill but trust me, that stuff changed my life. I was put on the pill and on Prozac, and gradually came of the Prozac as the Pill sorted everything else out.

At this point I had called off my (very happy) engagement, almost dropped out of college (I was top of my year) and gained about 3 stone.

Yes, your PMT isn't normal, but it can be literally crippling. See your GP and get help. Good luck :)

NotAroundTheEyes · 05/07/2013 23:20

*GP not GO, obvs.

quesadilla · 05/07/2013 23:24

I used to be like this too. Not maybe for two weeks but for well over a week. At its peak it was so bad I couldn't function: was tearful, aggressive, paranoid, had no energy, my intellectual capacity was massively diminished and I felt fat and ugly.

Got to the point where I would basically not schedule anything important if it could be avoided during that week or so,and would avoid going out because it would lead to rows with DH and friends.

Not sure it's average but its not that uncommon, some people just suffer much more than average.

The only thing that has ever really worked for me is the Mirena coil: has basically erased my menstrual cycle so I don't have periods any more and hence no PMT. it has massively improved my life. Would you consider that? Might sound a drastic solution but if you are not ttc its worth thinking about.

soontobeburns · 05/07/2013 23:28

It could be pmdd. Google it and see if it gives you any help.

NotAroundTheEyes · 05/07/2013 23:28

Quesadilla that all sounds so familiar. It's horrendous how it actually changes your whole personality...

I've thankfully never been quite as bad as when I completely lost my shit at 19, but in the last year or so it has been getting really, REALLY horrible again.

2 months ago I had a bit of a life overhaul (went almost vegan and took up running, swimming and sauna Grin) and this period came and went with neither DH or I really noticing...I mentioned I had a mild tummy cramp and he looked shocked that my period was underway, presumably as I hadn't threatened to kill him, the cat and myself in that order Grin

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SonShines · 05/07/2013 23:40

From the Wiki Page on PMDD, I can relate to the following:

-feelings of deep sadness or despair
-rapid and severe mood swings, bouts of uncontrollable crying (not so -much incontrollable, but definitely crying)
-lasting irritability or anger, increased interpersonal conflicts; typically sufferers are unaware of the impact they have on those close to them (I've tended to always think DH is to blame for arguments, but now not so sure)
-apathy or disinterest in daily activities and relationships
-food cravings or binge eating just ate 200g of chocolate
-insomnia or hypersomnia; sleeping more than usual, or (in a smaller group of sufferers) being unable to sleep (I really really struggle to get up in the morning)
-feeling overwhelmed or feelings of being out of control

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