To be pissed off at being left alone?

[Bellini28]

Currently five months pregnant and tired of travelling every weekend... We have a weekend place that DP loves to go to. I want to stay home so he has gone with some other couples for the weekend (next weekend another set of friends) and I'm home alone. I'm not being precious but I'm bored of the shenanigans as well.... Drinking etc.

Basically DP said that just because I don't want to enjoy our place it doesn't mean he has to miss out and that it is my choice not to join them.

AIBU to feel abandoned and a bit neglected.

Abandoned and neglected is a bit strong lol

I imagine it must get boring to have to go every single weekend, but then again the weather's so nice I expect it's a bit of a novelty for your DP.

Absolutely furious on your behalf - he's a selfish pig! You're carrying his child, and he should be looking after you - full stop, no debate.

Is it the weekend place he loves or the drinking shenanigans? If it is the place, the least he can do is see if he can organise a weekend stay there without the shenanigans, however, if it is the drinking, why don't you agree he can have some drinks with friends on sat.night, but at your home, so that at least you have his attention/presence sat and sun day time?

As he has gone now, I assume you are alone - I'd be planning a lovely spa day or shopping day for tomorrow -basically whatever you want to do, do it!

Lol I've noticed the pregnancy hormones have well and truly kicked butt this week.... Explains the dramatics!

But no novelty... He really does go away a lot and I think he has a cheek to leave me on my own to spend time with his friends and their wives... Hence me coming on here really, needed a bit of perspective before I start giving him a really hard time ;)

Hmm, tricky. I wouldn't be upset if my husband did this, but that's because it's not the kind of thing he would do too often, and I know that if I asked him to stay he would at least hear me out. If you feel like your husband would go no matter what and does so all the time, I can see why it's annoying.

I imagine you also have some anxiety about whether he will keep doing this later in the pregnancy, or after the baby comes? or has he acknowledged that he will go away less then?

It's hard to judge the situation without knowing more. Does he drink a lot when you are there away with him? I haven't really let my current pregnancy stop me much, i'm 34 weeks and going to a festival tomorrow as dp is playing at it in Sunday. He plays and promotes a lot of gigs so is out most weekends. I've only chosen to give a couple a miss, and I wouldn't expect him not to go to any because i disnt want to wheb there was nothing physically stoppin me.

Having said that I'd get fed up if he was really pissed at each one and not bother going, and I would probably end up feeling a bit resentful. my ex and countless other men I've read about on mumsnet go out drinking with friends very heavily on a weekend spending lots of money and leaving pregnant wives and girlfriends at home not knowing when they will be back and I would not put up with that at all and find that a different situation.

Don't coop yourself up just because you're pregnant, can't you enjoy a different environment too, the journey with dp, take some books and go out for nice food while you are there? Or is it not that kind of weekend?

Is this your first baby? I'm thinking he may have a nasty shock in store when the baby arrives - has he said what he plans to do then re the weekend place?

Every so often, no problem. Every weekend would really piss me off.
Sounds like you're coming out of the childless (assuming this is your first?) phase and he isn't.
YANBU if it is all the time x

One weekend, and not actually happened yet? YABU. I'm with you on the drinking, but a weekend place is pretty nice. Staying in at home all the time is a bit dull. Socialising with friends is nice too. Can it change to become a family weekend place?