This is my first post and would like some opinions on whether I am being unreasonable in wanting a holiday this year. (Or any year for that matter)
My DH and I have been together for 15 years and have two school aged children. In the time we have been together we have had one holiday. This is partly due to the fact that for the first 10 years of our relationship money was very tight. We both had just qualified when we first met, then started saving for a deposit for a house, then child care costs took up a lot of my salary. Also when we moved into our house we started over paying on the mortgage. DH saw this over payment as a priority and we often did without a lot of things to do this. (a holiday being one)
The last five years however have been a lot easier in terms of finance. However despite the fact that we pay a significant sum into our final salary pensions and we only have a couple of years left on the mortgage DH will not consider spending money on a holiday. He thinks I am trying to be wasteful with our money and says if I had my own way, throwing money away on holidays, we would be facing financial hardship when we retire. He worries about money, and hates the fact that we owe money through our mortgage.
Although he won't spend money on a holiday, we do have a good life and and don't have money worries for which I am thankful for. DH rarely goes out and spends most of his spare money on me and the children. When I have asked him about going away he said I was being selfish for wanting to go away when I have so much anyway.
Am I being unreasonable and selfish to want to go away somewhere. I recognise that it is important to be financially secure, but feel you have to live as well. I often think you never know what's round he corner as well. I would be happy with somewhere in this country.