to paint a bit of background for you -
ex has not seen one child for over two years and the other for over a year. Twice recently and many times in the distant past he made an arrangement to see them and then cancelled (not postponed) at the last minute. I have been alone with them for about 12 years, 7 of those with no child maintenence.
now his sister and her son are coming over to visit him in August, and he wants the children to come and stay with him so they can have a family barbecue, to my biased mind so that he can play 'dad' for his sister's benefit.
he is remarried and his wife doesnt like them much, that is why he has hardly seen them for the last 7 years and stopped paying maintenance (although CSA did catch up in the end)
as someone said on another thred, there is a difference between parent as a noun and parent as a verb and he has done none of the latter but wants the former.....
WIBU to book a holiday for that August weekend?