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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to give a friend another chance.

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McNewPants2013 · 04/07/2013 22:11

I feel out with my best friend aged 18 after the shit she put on my new relationship with my now DH.

i recently met with her and her DS is going to be in the same class as my DD ( new school) and she politly invited DD to her son birthday party in a few weeks time as a way for them to make friends and get to know each other before school starts.

I am in 2 minds do i let the past go or not.

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SoleSource · 04/07/2013 22:13

How many years ago was this?

WilsonFrickett · 04/07/2013 22:14

Let it go. It's not about the two of you now, it's about the two kids - who may or may not be friends, but honestly, what are you going to do if they do want to be friends? Start some sort of bloodline feud? Life isn't a Martina Cole book - accept the olive branch, move on. The two of you don't have to be friends, but if your kids get on, then why would you want to mess that up?

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McNewPants2013 · 04/07/2013 22:16

10 years ago.

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 04/07/2013 22:17

Need a bit more information I think - what shit with DH?

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McNewPants2013 · 04/07/2013 22:19

I don't want to mess my children friendships up, it's thier friends who they can decide for themselves.

I know this must have been a huge step and a way to say sorry.

I am just very confused and it bought back painful memory of losing her as a friend.

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MammaTJ · 04/07/2013 22:20

10 years ago, are you an elephant? Surely only they have memories that long!!

trackies · 04/07/2013 22:21

it depends on what the shit was. more info ?

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McNewPants2013 · 04/07/2013 22:21

She told my mum alot of things that wasn't true, also said I was still sleeping with an ex.

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SanityClause · 04/07/2013 22:21

You don't have to be best friends again, but you may make difficulties for yourself and DD if you are not on speaking terms with this woman, at least.

And people change. I bet you are not the same person now that you were when you were 18.

Corygal · 04/07/2013 22:22

Um I'd say not to bother. That ain't pretty.

cozietoesie · 04/07/2013 22:22

As WilsonFrickett said - it's about the kids now. She was polite and extending an olive branch. I'd let it go. You don't have to become BFFs all over again but pleasantness as parents of kids at the same stage in school is always to be wished for.

WilsonFrickett · 04/07/2013 22:57

Also, once they're at school it's more about kids spending time at each other's houses, rather than 'playdates' where the parents have to tag along and make conversation. You won't have to actually spend any time together.

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