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To get pretty ticked off with this new colleague over petty things?

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spangledboots · 04/07/2013 20:07

Okay, I think I need to vent.

I'm finishing my current job tomorrow and have loved every moment of being there up until the last four weeks. Sure there have been some minor issues with colleagues and I'm sure I've pissed people off too but in general we're a great team and get on well. Until a new member joined (at the same time as two others who are both lovely and very easy to work with) who within the first three days managed to reduce me to tears. I was pretty mortified (she did so by making comments about my age).

I could go on and on about the sensible reasons as to why I get so ticked off by her but the petty things that have been driving me up the wall include:

  • her beating the shit out of her keyboard and mouse (this bothers everyone who sits near her as it's incessant!)
  • marching angrily around the studio at all times (today the floor was shaking!)
  • snatching my things from my desk without asking and not giving them back (silly things like my calculator, paper, pens etc. all of which were purchased by myself)
  • after being nasty or horrible to me she tells me that I seem emotional and offers me a strawberry and a 'sympathetic ear'...

Please tell me I need to calm down and focus on the fact that after tomorrow it's over! I guess it's been a good learning curve for me!

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redexpat · 04/07/2013 20:40

Calm down, and focus on the fact that after tomorrow it's over!

Make sure you get your pens back though. Are they nice ones?

YouTheCat · 04/07/2013 20:44

Focus on the fact it will be over soon and tell her what a massive bitch she is being and that actually no one in the office likes her. Wink

Heartbrokenmum73 · 04/07/2013 20:47

She sounds like that really obnoxious Catherine Tate character who won't leave her colleague alone with incessant questions and horrible behaviour. Be glad you're leaving - deep breaths, onwards and upwards!

LimitedEditionLady · 04/07/2013 20:49

Lol id so tell her how annoying she is.

aldiwhore · 04/07/2013 20:54

My loveliest colleague beats the crap out of her desk, keyboard, mouse, phone (phone smashing!) etc etc., and yes it's a little distracting (as is the fax, the footfall, the photocopier, the coffee machine, people bloody BREATHING - been one of those days) but that in itself is not enough justification for you to be so mad.

I guess though it's in the little things, the cumulative effect, I understand that... BUT FGS woman you're leaving tomorrow!!!!!!!!

Let it be someone else's problem.

I will say though that if she's reduced you to tears by making comments on your age, much as it's not a nice thing to do, then it makes me wonder if you've just had enough generally and she added to your feelings of shiteness rather than being the cause.

I'm not saying it's nice to comment on anyone's age, especially if you don't know them or know how well they'll taking teasing (my colleagues and I all know our limits, there's banter, but it gets dropped quickly, never goes too far) but new girl makes you cry by commenting on your age???? Be proud of your age, equip yourself with comebacks.

Leave tomorrow feeling doubly happy, happy that you're moving on, and happy to leave her behind. If she's that bad, she'll get hers...

In fairness to you, she sounds like a twat "sympathetic ear"??? FFS, the only people who say that particular line are those that generally don't have one!

Chin up. You could compose a scathing whisper for when you last shake her hand, but would it make you feel better? If so, I'm sure there's a fair few people around here with the wit to compose a chilling whispered 'farewell'. Smile

spangledboots · 04/07/2013 22:56

No - the comments about my age were made in direct connection with the work I'd been doing and my approach to the handover process. She felt like I wasn't experienced enough to give her a good handover and said that after knowing me for two days. This was essentially because she had a 'plan' in mind before starting working with us. Others in the team said that she needed to get as much information from me in the space of four weeks as possible and that she should follow my lead as I know the account but she decided to go against that...and tell me that she was doing that because I was too young. So. much. drama.

deep breaths

Tomorrow, there will be wine!

I'm not planning on being nasty to her, I'd rather leave with my head held high tbh. I will have to make a wee leaving speech and kind of want to say 'you guys have all been great etc.' but don't feel I can say that now!

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Goldmandra · 04/07/2013 23:03

You can say thank you to all your supportive colleagues who have been great to work work and that you are sure they know who they are

SquinkiesRule · 05/07/2013 00:22

If she has a go at you tomorrow, tell her loudly "You are a noisy, nasty cow, leave me alone and stop trying to pinch my stuff, sod off" See what happens, it's not like they are going to fire you and I bet the others will snigger away knowing exactly what you are on about. It's your one chance to put her in her place and walk away.
Enjoy your new job.

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