To ask for some quiet when I am putting my DS to bed?

[Jane04]

I live with my parents at the moment (Long story).

I am due to have DC2 very soon so I have had to move my DS from a cot in my room into his own room in a bed, His bedtime is 7:30.

I ask my family if at 7:30 they can keep it quiet upstairs just while I run up the stairs 10 times asking him to get back into his bed settle DS.

I am apparently being unreasonable as we have a room in the loft which people use (Three times a week at the most) however the ladder is right outside DS's room and makes an awful creaking noise when people use it, DS being inquisitive gets out of bed to see who it is every time.

He has done really well over the past few days falling asleep within 20 minutes so I have asked my family if from the time I settle DS to the time DS is asleep (he is an extremely heavy sleeper so you cannot disturb him) that it is quiet upstairs.

AIBU?

I'd say yanbu but how essential is it for family to access the attic? Can you give them a 15 min warning before bedtime to get their stuff out?

If you don't like it, get your own place.

The room doesn't have any essentials in it at all, they never need anything from the room it was built for a hobby my family likes to partake in.

Harsh onesleeptilwembley

Ignore that very unhelpful post op.

I dont think yabu. There has to be some form of compromise when different units are living under one roof.

I think it would be nice for them to be more considerate but I do think YABU because they should be able to do as they please in their own home

We had this. 2 ds's lived in the attic rooms. They used to wait until the times between 7 15 and eight o clock and then run up and down those bloody old creaking stairs about 100 times. I swore they did it deliberately.

We gave up in the end. They were being awkward and your family are wing unreasonable. Not much you can do though... Am intrigued as to what the hobby is

why doesnt a simple explanation of "its grandad going into the loft" suffice?? when you all live together, it must be really difficult to have silence while he goes to bed

But then on the other hand, MayTheOdds, when you accept a baby into your house full time, I think you take on a little responsibility and should compromise to the mother's wishes to a certain extent? Especially when it is over your own daughter's child.

I don't think yabu. I'm sure they know your ds's routine and you need 20 mins to settle him. It's not a lot to ask. How old is your ds?

Its 20mins, it's not an unreasonable request in my book and I am a high Maintenence do what I like kind of person.

I have a very similar situation and issue. It's our home too Maytheodds
And Wembley - if only I'd thought of that - how simple!

Thank you for the replies.

DS is nearly 2 and has not developed a wide range of communication so I cannot say 'Its grandad, get back in bed' without him wanting to see who it is every time.

It is no more than 20 minutes and after that they can use the loft as much as they like as DS will not wake up no matter how much noise is made when he has fell asleep.

What's the hobby? I'm intrigued!
Yanbu

Tell them
If they're going up & down they can sort him out !