To ignore a friend?

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I was a bridesmaid last year to a friend. Since the wedding (10 months ago) I haven't seen friend or heard from her since Christmas. She announced her pregnancy on facebook in the Spring.

Yesterday she text me to say sorry for not being in contact and we must meet up soon for her to show me her wedding photos etc..

I have had a rather rough time of it recently, but she doesn't know that since I didn't feel I could tell her, due to the lack of contact.

I don't feel close to her at all now. I was rather bitter about her wedding and how she behaved towards me and others (Very precious behaviour and treating the church like a hired venue [she picked a "pretty" church and moaned about having to go for 6 months beforehand due to the rules] [I go to church most Sundays])

I haven't replied to her text yet, but honestly don't want to resurrect a friendship with her. Is this unreasonable?

It takes two not to communicate. Why didn't you send her the usual hope the honeymoon went well call/ text.

Sorry you have had a rough time but that's not her fault is it?

She may well be wondering why you didn't contact her!

Just find that very strange, that you two were close enough for her to ask you to be her bridesmaid and things to end up like this?

Did you attempt to contact her?

I don't think you should be bitter about her attitude to the church she had her wedding in. Some people just aren't that 'into' church and I assume she isn't one. It's a difference of outlook, not worth falling out over. I am a churchgoer myself.

I think you should reciprocate and see if you can rediscover whatever it was that made you such close friends in the first place. Maybe she has had a tough time too and you don't know?

If you've tried to contact her and been ignored up until now then that's understandable, if not then you're both in the 'wrong' a bit.

YANBU to not want to be friends with someone or anyone for that matter, its your choice. However YABU for blaming your friend for your choice.

If you want to drop her, drop her, nothing wrong with admitting to yourself that a friendship has passed its sell-by date but it sounds like you are as guilty as she is at not maintaining the friendship, particularly as if she didn't know of your recent circumstances she can hardly be blamed for not being more supportive.

Instead of feeling bitter and angry with her I would be trying to figure out why you feel this anger and work out as calmly as you can whether there is any mileage in the friendship. If there is, drop your resentment gracefully and if not just move on.

Thanks MNers - I knew you would set me straight!
I will text back. As you say, she's not psychic - she can't possibly know about how rough things have been without me telling her. I guess time will tell if the friendship is worth resurrecting or if it really has run it's course.
Thanks