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to expect to be paid

47 replies

missingoutonacoolusername · 03/07/2013 15:08

I look after a friends DC before and after school a few days a week when she goes to work. I'm not registered or anything but it works out for both of us and I charge her £10 per hour. She has recently been signed off work sick so doesn't need me. She offered to pay me for a couple of weeks as it was short notice but not for the full time she is off. Am I being unreasonable to ask to be paid seeing as she is being paid?

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VacantExpression · 03/07/2013 15:10

A registered childminder would be cheaper for her surely?? I think YABVU!

nemno · 03/07/2013 15:11

As it is such an informal arrangement I think a couple of weeks is fine, generous even.

Cherriesarelovely · 03/07/2013 15:11

If it's a casual arrangement then I don't think you ought to be paid, sorry, you're not doing the job are you? I suppose if you then took on something else that meant you couldn't do it for her when she was well then that would be unfortunate for her but not your responsibility at all.

Cherriesarelovely · 03/07/2013 15:12

Also, £10 is ALOT! Isn't it?

3littlefrogs · 03/07/2013 15:12

Isn't what you are doing illegal?

Flossbert · 03/07/2013 15:12

YABU. What nemno said.

wineandroses · 03/07/2013 15:12

Yabu. This is an informal arrangement. Why should she pay you if you aren't having her children? The fact that she is being paid whilst on sick leave is irrelevant and none of your business.

Caitycat · 03/07/2013 15:13

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PatriciaHolm · 03/07/2013 15:13

If you want the protection of employment, get registered and do it properly. You are presumably both aware you should be registered to take payment?

QueenofallIsee · 03/07/2013 15:14

She would not have to pay a CM as much as she pays you and she would get government credits for a registered provider - so I think you would be VV cheeky to expect the benefit of an employment contract without paying tax!

Caitycat · 03/07/2013 15:15

Sorry, sure you were fascinated by dd's contribution

FoofFighter · 03/07/2013 15:17

You could well be operating illegally and breaking the law by doing what you are doing ( need more details to be sure of that) so I'd cut your losees and accept her generous offer. and get registered

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 03/07/2013 15:23

As others have said: you are not employed/running a business so have no protection.

Are you declaring this income to HMRC?

Crinkle77 · 03/07/2013 15:26

YABU. You have an informal arrangement and you are not registered and considering you are friends you are charging rather a lot.

LIZS · 03/07/2013 15:28

She sounds overgenerous to me .

CloudsAndTrees · 03/07/2013 15:29

Yabvu.

Are you paying tax on what you earn? Or are you doing it cash in hand with no books in sight, seeing as you're unqualified and unregistered?

How can you possibly expect employee rights and perks if you aren't doing things properly?

rockybalboa · 03/07/2013 15:30

YABU. Casual arrangement, no formal registration, quite a high hourly rate. Sounds like you've had it lucky! How exactly would you go about demanding payment anyway? You might want to think about things going forward so the issue doesn't crop up again.

Cluffyflump · 03/07/2013 15:30

I'm with Caitycats Dd.
YABU for not being registered.

megsmouse · 03/07/2013 15:31

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hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 03/07/2013 15:31

YABU. You either need to register as a childminder and do this properly or you need to stop looking after her children.

LunaticFringe · 03/07/2013 15:31

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ssd · 03/07/2013 15:34

what you are doing is illegal

childminders are registered for a reason, not because they like all the hassle of it

If you lived near me you'd be reported

EarlyInTheMorning · 03/07/2013 15:55

A friend?
£10 an hour?
And you want her to pay you even though she's not using you?
This is a reverse AIBU, right?

angelos02 · 03/07/2013 15:59

Do you declare your earnings to the taxman?

MrsBungle · 03/07/2013 16:02

£10 an hour abs you're not even a registered childminder?! Wow. Surely that's grossly overcharging? Cm's round my way are about £4 per hour.

Yabu. You don't have a contract with her, just an adhoc arrangement.