Ds is due to be 5 soon. He's never had a proper party before so we have been organising something nice for him and his friends. Cut to one of my close friends whose ds happens to also be my ds's best friend asking me at a meet up could we keep X date free for her son's party. X date also happens to be my ds's actual birthday but not hers. She hasn't done it on purpose as she's clearly forgotten it is my ds 's birthday and clearly feels a bit embarrassed about it. We don't have chance to further chat about it as she has to go.
We meet up with both ds at the weekend and we talk about it again. She suggests we do a joint party which I'm more than happy to go with as an idea.
I go home and do a bit of research for cheap venues (neither of us have much spare cash) and find a great venue which would suit what we talked about.
I text her suggesting it but she texts back to say that they don't think my ds should have to share his birthday and that they're just going to have their own party for their ds at home - effectively precluding my ds and us from going (can't expect ds to go to someone else's party on his own birthday, and we have a couple of family visiting), preventing us having our own party (we have lots of shared friends with dc the same age) and will have to explain why ds won't be invited to his best mate's party. I know he's only 5 but he's very sensitive and loves my friend 's ds to bits.
I'm now considering jacking in the whole idea of a party round his birthday and having it later in the year when he's back at school. I'm just really disappointed that my friend is so unmoveable on the date.