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mycatoscar · 02/07/2013 12:20

Today have discovers that dh and dd have between then drunk all my bottled water that I brought for an event I'm going to on Saturday and they've used all my lovely new pencils which I bought for my college course.

Feeling pissed off and tearful (may Have pmt)

Doesn't help that before discovering this I had had to put away a lot of their stuff which they just leave laying around.

Feel totally unappreciated and unimportant today.

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DarkWinter · 02/07/2013 12:22

Did they know that you were keeping these things aside?

Fakebook · 02/07/2013 12:23

I hate it when this happens. I had a big shout a few days ago about nothing being my own in the house. I've resorted to hiding all my special things now. I even have to hide my chocolate and only eat it when both children are asleep. It's crap, but it's the only way my things won't get used or touched.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 02/07/2013 12:23

why do you need bottled water? Confused Do you live in a third world country? Just fill them up! Get a filter if you're fussy.

As for your pencils...they're pencils...are they worn out totally?

thebody · 02/07/2013 12:24

Mmm, did they know that these items were specifically yours?

If yes then write them each a note saying how bad you feel and how under appreciated. Bit passive/ aggressive.Go out, replenish and have lunch while you are at it, buy a new outfit.

sonlypuppyfat · 02/07/2013 12:24

Neo its not the point that its bottled water or she has to sharpen the pencils its that they were HER things

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mycatoscar · 02/07/2013 12:27

The bottles have been thrown away otherwise yes of course id just refill. The pencils went to work with dh and are no more. He is a carpenter.

They both knew the water was for Saturday and the pencils were in my college stuff. Separate from everything else.

It's the fact that they both think. Ah we'll it's only mums/ wives so it doesn't matter.

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ShatnersBassoon · 02/07/2013 12:28

This sort of thing really annoys me too. It doesn't matter what it is or why you bought it, if you've specified something is yours and shouldn't be touched, everyone else should keep their paws off!

bobbywash · 02/07/2013 12:31

sonly presumably bought with family money, left in the family house, not marked "do not touch, for OP only"

If buying stuff means that it belongs to me, how are the others in the house ever going to eat. They're not her things unless the others in the house have been told that is the intention.

Pootles2010 · 02/07/2013 12:33

I'd mention it to DH, as he's heading out or whatever 'oh don't forget to get some more water & pencils to replace what you used', then when he returns ask him not to do it again.

They only think 'its only mums' because you don't stand up for yourself! Would your dd think 'its only dads'?

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mycatoscar · 02/07/2013 12:36

No I didn't write a note on them.

They knew they were mine and for a specific purpose.

just like I know the sweets in the cupboard are dds for tge weekend and the chicken drumsticks in the fridge are dhs for packed lunches. Would not occur to me to simply just take either of those things just because they were bought with family money and were in the house!

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mycatoscar · 02/07/2013 12:37

Oh and yes I do stand up for myself. They simply don't care though. Not the first time this has happened, just got to me today.

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FringeEvent · 02/07/2013 12:41

In your shoes I'd be considering having those chicken drumsticks for lunch today, and munching on the sweeties this afternoon... that would get the message across

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mycatoscar · 02/07/2013 12:44

Pmsl fringe Grin I might just do that!

Am going to mention to dh and dd too.

If they had asked I wouldn't have minded but to take all the pencils and use them up and drink all the water was just a bit crappy tbh, showed no consideration for the fact I needed those things.

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Thurlow · 02/07/2013 12:44

Definitely eat the chicken drumsticks today and let him figure something else out for lunch.

MaxPepsi · 02/07/2013 12:45

Agree with Fringe.

And as you think you may have PMT it's allowed!!!

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mycatoscar · 02/07/2013 12:46

Trouble is, I sort of overlooked the drumsticks yesterday don't really fancy them lol. Might let the dig lick them though.

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mycatoscar · 02/07/2013 12:46

Over cooked the drumsticks even!

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steppemum · 02/07/2013 12:49

send them to the shops to replace them.

I have this a lot with dd2 at the moment, she pinches stuff from ds and dd1 bedroom and can't understand that it isn't HERS.

So last week I allowed dd1 to choose and use an item from dd2s room for the day. It was very effective!

hiddenhome · 02/07/2013 12:50

You need to store stuff in your wardrobe. Anything that I don't want them to touch goes into my wardrobe, at the back, in a box Smile

pregnantpause · 02/07/2013 13:00

My dh does this- we will buy four cakes for instance, one for each of us- if I don't eat it with the family, and chose to leave mine til later- he will eat it!
Worse he has bought me a treat, a favourite chocolate bar or something, and has then eaten it himself, as I didn't scoff it fast enough. bastardy bastard

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mycatoscar · 02/07/2013 13:00

No I think they need to stop taking things they know I wouldn't want them to!

Will be having chat tonight.

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Theselittlelightsofmine · 02/07/2013 13:01

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Crinkle77 · 02/07/2013 14:35

Make them replace them especially if your husband knew the water was for Saturday

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