aibu to ask for the money back?

[inneedofsomehelpplz]

my sisters car broke down & i offered her £300 towards a new one which she accepted but she was given a car by her pils. she used the money on bills - would i bu to ask for the money back as i gave it as a gift but to help by a car! im not rich so couldve used that money to pay my own bills.

feel like a right biatch :-\

Erm, you gave it as a gift so it's hard to ask for it back. If it had been a loan for a car I think you could.

but i only gave it to them to help buy a car - not pay their bills. oh well, lesson learned :-\

I think perhaps you gave it too quickly. Whilst you intended it to be used for a car, once you gave it to her it was hers.

Try and think of it like this, you contributed £300 towards the car, her PIL's contributed the rest and paid some bills.

Money is money.

YANBU to feel a bit annoyed.

YABU to consider asking for it back. You wanted her to get a car, she has a car, you are still £300 down whatever way you look at it.

I think it was given, not loaned, so it is now her to do as she wishes. A bit of a cheek though!

A gift is a gift.

YANBU. If you made it clear it was for a car, she's effectively been given a car twice. So she should pay you back.

Actually I don't think you'd be unreasonable at all to ask for the money back! Yes you gave her the money as a gift - but it was a gift with a stipulation, that she was to use the money to buy a car. Her PILs kindly solved that problem by giving her a car, therefore she didn't need your £300 after all and should have given it back to you. I would have! You were very generous and I think that your sister then spending the money on bills is outrageously cheeky - that's not what you gave her the money for.

I wouldn't be happy about this. Yanbu IMO.