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AIBU?

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to expect h to help when ds is sick

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buaitisi · 30/06/2013 04:12

Ds 4 year old has bronchitis and an ear infection, I haven't had much sleep the last 2 nights as he's slept across me and is in a good bit of discomfort.

I asked h to sleep in spare room. Yest he slept in until 10.30 and I had to ask him to get up. This morning around 9, after being up with ds since 6 i went into H and asked him to keep an eye on ds while I took a shower.

I came out of the shower to find ds crying in pain in the other bathroom with h still in bed shouting out to him 'aw are you ok ds, come in here'

I tended to ds, he stayed in bed and got huffy when I said he had to get up & mind ds while I went to the chemist.

I came home and he was cleaning the place and doing the laundry but really short with me. Whatever.

Later, ds asked me to cuddle with him on the couch. He was lying on top of me and as I kind of readjusted he started screaming in pain, H shouted at me from other room 'stop doing that to him' Confused

Ds later was crying and I asked H to reassure him. He wouldn't and I got mad and said fine, you can help or not but don't berate me when I'm taking care of him and just try to be a bit more sensitive to me as I've barely slept the last 2 nights.

He has just brought a load of laundry to the launderette as our dryer is broken and it's raining.

Sorry to rant, I'm just so sick of being disappointed in him whenever anyone is sick or down. It's like he despises me when I need anything from him.

I don't mind taking care of sick ds at all and will happily do everything for him but aibu to expect h to be nice to me while I do it?

He is helping with housework but he's a clean freak and he's annoyed with us making a mess while ds is sick.

OP posts:
welshfirsttimemummy · 30/06/2013 04:31

Yanbu.

You are both his parents and should both look after him when ill, or I'd he wants mum DH should be supportive and help in whatever way he can.

welshfirsttimemummy · 30/06/2013 04:32

*if he wants mum

AdoraBell · 30/06/2013 04:40

YANBU, but some men don't see the need to pitch in just because a DC is sick. I had to ask my OH to take over doing meals when my DDs had norovirus and the idiot came and asked me what I wanted him to cook while I was trying to make sure DD puked in the bowl, fe.

If I were you I would set something similar, DH needs to take responsability for all meals, or laundry, or cleaning because looking after a sick DC takes up X amount of time, as in all day, or he can take full responsability for the sick DC.

Hope DS gets better soon and you Get some sleep.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 30/06/2013 10:02

YANBU...is DS ok though? If he's crying in pain I would be at out of hours asap.

everydayaschoolday · 30/06/2013 10:25

YABU. DH should help whether or not DS is sick Wink. You are also all be VVVU for being up at 4am this morning! Hope you Ds is feeling better and you get a chance for a nap today Flowers.

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