is it bad to wanna scream. ..

[TheMrs04]

my best friend is like my big brother... but recently hes spent the last 2 weeks round my house helping himself to anything and everything and really treating my house like a hotel...literally assuming he can stay over every night. I wouldn't mind so much if he helped with the food bill.. but nada.. im a newly wed and hardly see my husband as it is (I work the graveyard shift) so I book a few days off work and plan to have movie nights with the husband but hes always here... I just don't have the heart to tell him to bugger off.... what do I do... without sounding like the bad guy???

Why only the last two weeks? Have you asked him if he's alright?

Seems a bit odd if it's out of character.

You're going to have to say something because he obviously thinks everything's OK, if you go in from the angle of asking if everything's alright I doubt he could take it as shitty.

Find him a gf.

well he's stayed before but never for this long... yeah everything is fine at home I regularly speak to his parents as I see them as my own... according to some of his friends who know have distanced them self say he is a bit of a "clinger". hes always taking about home and his parents... he calls his parents everyday.. its not like they live a million miles away either. . 2 miles away from door to door... I just think hes taking the p!ss with me as he knows how soft I am and that I wont say anything.. I would just like a night where I can slob about rather than waiting in him hand and foot..

youthecat... oh how I have tried....

Is he maybe exploring how he'd feel moving out of his parents home, from a safe distance?

What is it that makes you feel he'd take you telling him badly?

And stop waiting on him hand and foot!

Side step hinting and just come out with it, practice before you say it (I have to ) and then just say it. There's never going to be a good time, so the next time you see him. And don't apologise for saying it, he's an unasked for lodger, and this is your home.

'You know I love you Colin, but you've outstayed your welcome, now fuck off home and leave me and my husband to get up to things - alone '

Maybe he'll agree he's been taking the piss and fuck off?

How old is he?

What are the genders of your and dh?

Buy him a cinema ticket & tell him you are ttc so need private time.

Change the locks and dont give him the keys.

Dont replace the food.

Go out to dinner.

Sign him up for a couple of dating websites and set him up with dates.

If he's your best friend, you should be able to be pretty honest with him: "Oi, BF, I'm a newly wed and my DH and I want to be shagging like rabbits on the kitchen table and we can't do that with you hanging around like a bad smell. Bugger off and annoy someone else for a while."

all your coments have helped currently he is sat on my sofa watching hollyoaks with my husband... hes 25 and this morning told me he will be going home today.. but when I do not know... signed him up to a few dating sites... no joy.. hes not the sharpest tool.. im currently cooking sunday lunch and have purposely only put enough food for two in.. that has made him say hes going home.......

finally he has gone.... peace and quiet. hurrraaa .. his mum called she just randomly asked when he would be home and he said now im leaving now....