Does your massage therapist hug you?

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After treatments, my massage therapist gives me a nice hug. Part of his service or inappropriate?

AIBU?

If I was in his girlfriend's shoes and knew he was giving hugs to clients I would probably not be very happy!

I was serious by the way! I'm single and fancy him. Should I find some inferior person instead or is it ok?

I think it's completely normal and would not read anymore into it to be honest. But then people who don't like hugs will tell you its not right.

Haha nickedname!

Em... none of that.

It's usually in the public part of the place that he hugs me. Not in the private room

I don't see the big deal personally. It's just a hug! Jeez! It's not like he's grabbing your arse.
You fancying him shouldnt matter. Enjoy it!

Ok so I can keep going to him without feeling that there's something sordid going on between us? That's good!

If you fancy him then he probably knows it - and he's the one getting a massage - to his ego. So it's a win win.

Ps. I'm not saying that people shouldn't say anything if it DOES bother them. But if you're ok with it then whats the harm? Hugs can be professional too.

Sorry I can't be as easy going as you Poppety Ping ;-)

You are not worried about the hugs, you just want to talk about him

Was only joking btw PP

Yeah he should be knocking a bit off the price seeing as I'm massaging his ego ha!

Ow!

I was worried about the hugs!

A friend said he was just being nice too but just wanted the MNet word on the matter. Thanks!

My masseur doesn't give me a hug but I wish he would - he's luffly!

Its wired and a bit creepy. I've had loads of massages, but would be mortified is anyone except the nice Thai lady hugged me. A hyponotherapist once hugged me, and he was both a creep, and a rubbish hypnotherapist.

No, but my GP once did. I changed surgeries

If you are uncomfortable with it then he should not do it. I would criticise him for not being intuitive enough to figure out your reluctance. Don't think it is standard practice. I'm a massage therapist and occasionally hug a client but I work in palliative care and with bereaved clients and sometimes it is appropriate but always instigated by client and if I am comfortable with it too. If you are not happy speak up or change therapist.

Oh and I'm not wanky either.

I've be uncomfortable with it. Mine doesn't, I get uncomfortable when I'm not in ' the zone' and realise just how chose he is standing! My mum didn't hug her clients either.

Well the first time he massaged me, I had a sore shoulder. It's normally a Thai massage so clothes on but for this one, I removed my bra. He stayed in the room (mat on floor) and held up a towel 'for privacy' but I'm pretty sure he saw my breasts. Maybe he didn't. Anyway, thought that was a teensy bit inappropriate too but the massage was amazing so kind of forgot about that!

Wow a hot hugging masseur - I want one!

No, but my hair stylist does.

HeeHee Diary yes I always come away from my appointments with a massive smile plastered across my face ;-)

Surely it would be difficult for him to hug you without your participation ?

I think we've concluded that he's just really nice and of course I participate in the hug only too willingly. I started this thread to work out if it was ok. Never had a therapist hug me before that's all. Maybe I'm a bit socially challenged at the moment. That's what Mumsnet is for innit? ;-)

He should advertise on Nethuns, that bunch love a good (hug).