to just want him to notice.

[candygirl78]

So dh has taken ds out for the day. Whilst out i looked after 8 month old and cleaned whole of downstairs. Dh came home complaining about how tired he is and hasn't moved. No acknowledgement that i was busy too. Now i am stuck doing bedtime again whilst he rests.
Aibu to expect more.

YANBU.

I think he needs it spelling out to him. YANBU.

Once the kids are in bed, can you have a wee chat with him? Say it's great that he spent him with your DS today but that you're also exhausted from all the housework and taking care of your eight month old. He might just be totally oblivious to how much you did?

Try not to get too frustrated/angry if you want to avoid and argument!

Are you me? Poor you. I think you need to spell it out to him too. Don't get emotional and bitter about it, just be cool and explain as calmly as you can.

Are you me too? My mindset is caught between "I just want a quiet life" and "why don't you notice the effort it takes to make things run smoothly?"

I don't know what the answer is.