To not want a church wedding to keep the peace

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Just that really! A little pressure from in laws but I am not religious and although they say everyone lies and marries in church for the 'church wedding' dream I am not really prepared to.

I don't mind what other people do but it makes me uncomfortable. I err heavily toward the pagan, Buddhism type religions and would like a wedding which is non religious as I do not practice anything.

Am I being too analytical here? Should I just go with it?

No, I wouldn't do it and didn't (not that it was an issue - my husband to be felt the same and our parents kept their beaks out).

After the wedding will be the christening you know (if you have children) - you need to nip this in the bud early on and do what you want to do as a couple.

Have the wedding you want. And pay for it yourself.
It's the only way to avoid this messiness imo.

x post. That sounds like an amazing wedding!

I like the sound of a humanist wedding. I went to a humanist funeral once and it was beautiful

Agreed At least I know I a not alone in my stance. Dp can't quite understand why I am quite so adamant but isn't bothered so no head butting between us,

My friend had a dinner party and got up between courses, got married and sat down for dinner! Ha!

My family paid for a lot of our wedding. They are religious, I'm not. I told them no church because I'd feel like a hypocrite. They accepted my civil ceremony and everyone had a lovely day.

Doesn't sound like MiL is religious, more like she wants nice photos. That's doable without a moral compromise. Doesn't have to be formal and stuffy either. If you have a civil ceremony, you can have flexibility about most of it.

I would work out your guest list (ie numbers for the ceremony) then look at the list of approved premises in the local authority/ies where you want to get married. Take her to see the one you like best.