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...to be fed up of ex's partner copying me word for word on Facebook

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Simatmum · 29/06/2013 17:32

It's trivial I know, but every time I write a comment, the bloody woman copies what I have written. Don't want to start a row on other people's statuses, and she's blocked from mine. Tried dismissing it, writing a comment and putting copyright sign at the end as a joke, writing complicated words (she hasn't copied them!), but I get the impression she is trying to goad me into saying something. I don't often see her face to face, thank goodness. Don't have any issues about her living with ex - she's more than welcome! Any constructive suggestions?

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HouseAtreides · 29/06/2013 18:24

I have one person blocked and I can't see them on anybody's status' even where I know they have commented and can see the reply.

Sparrowlegs248 · 29/06/2013 18:50

You need to go to her profile and then block from.there. Then even if she comments on a friends comment, you won't see it.

GailTheGoldfish · 29/06/2013 18:59

Put a link to this thread as your status

Ezza1 · 29/06/2013 19:06

What sort of things are you writing as your status?

HildaOgden · 29/06/2013 19:08

GailTheGoldfish,you are an evil genius

Icantstopeatinglol · 29/06/2013 19:13

It's not worth the bother to be honest. I was friends with my dh ex only because my dsd asked me to and I didn't want to say no. Anyway, long story short she used to put comments on to goad me like when she changed dsd name to step fathers and gloated about it. Eventually I just blocked her and unfriended her cos it wasn't worth my sanity!

GailTheGoldfish · 29/06/2013 19:21

Mwahahahaha HildaOgden!

sooperdooper · 29/06/2013 19:38

Sounds like you've deleted her or hidden her posts but you haven't blocked her

Click on 'privacy shortcuts' then 'how do I stop someone bothering me'
then add her name, and from that same section you can view who you have blocked

Then she can't see anything you post, and you can't see her, it's like you both don't exist on fb to each other

FutTheShuckUp · 29/06/2013 19:42

Gosh this is hard work- how the hell can you see what she's put if you've blocked her?

TolliverGroat · 29/06/2013 19:49

If you can see any evidence of her anywhere on FB then you haven't blocked her. Blocking makes it as though someone doesn't exist. I have someone blocked who is friends with other FB friends of mine; I never see her comments on their statuses or posts (I only know that she does sometimes comment because they will sometimes reply referencing her, (saying something like "LOL, that's a good point, Doris!")).

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Simatmum · 29/06/2013 19:59

sooperdooper you hit the nail on the head. I got some help from DD and now she's definitely blocked, (although I was sure she was blocked before, but hey!). Also blocked ex, whose name has apeared this week, so now feeling confident that the problem is sorted. Thankyou all.

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Ezza1 · 29/06/2013 20:01

Oh right, its comments on other peoples statuses. Sorry just read OP again.

Umm. As all have said, she shouldn't be able to see what you comment and you shouldn't be able to see what she has commented if you have her correctly blocked.

MammaTJ · 29/06/2013 20:33

If she is properly blocked she should not be able to see the OPs comments to copy and the OP should not be able to see hers.

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Simatmum · 29/06/2013 21:03

I've just had a lovely long 5-way chat on FB, and for the first time in nearly a year her copycat comments have not appeared. I know she'll have seen the comments from family members as she pounces immediately they write, but there's nothing from her, at last. Such a relief not to have everything I say mimicked. Thanks guys.

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 29/06/2013 22:50

I am also curious as to your statuses.....I mean if someone copied mine they would look nuts as mine are in no way relevant to anyone else! They are mine....and wouldn't make sense.

HildaOgden · 29/06/2013 23:33

So if you comment 'that's fantabulous Betty,personally I'd prefer a gorilla in a tutu',she follows on with 'that's fantabulous Betty,personally I'd prefer a gorilla in a tutu' as well???

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 29/06/2013 23:37

I suppose the OP means like when you post a status such as "Little Tom's just eaten fourteen mars bars! Bless his heart."

Rather then comments she makes on other people's statuses.

Which also wouldn't make sense. Unless..the OP is fond of statements like "Lovin' Life and Lovin' my man!" and "Gosh I'm soooo tired! Wish I had a housework fairy"

Such as one of my FB people often write and which are annoying. Sorry OP but they are!

RinseAndRepeat · 29/06/2013 23:39

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TinaSurrey · 29/06/2013 23:48

Will the copycat be aware she has been blocked? What is the difference between blocking someone and just de-friending someone?

2rebecca · 30/06/2013 00:00

It seems odd to have your ex and their current partner as facebook "friends" to me, especially as you don't seem to get on with her. I'd defriend them and use some excuse if they mention it about it being an accident but never reinvite them.
You can choose who sees your facebook stuff, wasting time moaning about people you don't like and who should never have had access to it in the first place is silly, be more discerning.

megsmouse · 30/06/2013 00:36

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Kaekae · 30/06/2013 00:40

Perhaps she set up a new facebook account and you haven't blocked the new one. You definitely would not be able to see any activity from her if you've blocked her.

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Simatmum · 30/06/2013 11:16

My ex and her aren't Facebook friends, but she was able to copy my comments on family status posts, not mine. Pathetic mimicry, such as NeoMax describes. If I say about one of the children 'well done for getting a sticker from headteacher for good behaviour', she incorporates or copies exactly, my words. In isolation, nothing to bother anyone, but over the course of nearly a year feels like harassment when she pounces every time. Some silly game or attempt at competition she has devised for no reason. I don't dislike her, don't like her either - she isn't part of my life unless we happen to be at family events. I don't even have conversations with her, just acknowledge her politely.

Anyway, it's sorted at last. She can find someone else to irritate.

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FCEK · 30/06/2013 14:45

if you block someone, you can't see anything they post - statuses, comments on other people's pages etc. so you haven't blocked her and if you really don't care you wouldn't be looking. Sounds like she knows you do care.

I would either block your mutual friends or put these mutual friends onto the 'restricted' option so they can't pass on what you do.

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Simatmum · 30/06/2013 15:01

If you read back, I have now blocked her, after receiving help on here. I couldn't help seeing her unwelcome comments on my daughters' FB pages, and had attempted to block her before - obviously didn't do it properly (not very good on sorting out settings, but I'm learning) but happily it's sorted now. My FB is restricted to nine relatives and two friends. I only want to use it to see family photos and exchange news with people I'm close to. No hidden agenda and I'm pleased it's resolved now.

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