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Work colleagues....

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danielsmum81 · 28/06/2013 22:06

I've worked in the same company for a number of years; during a period of 5 years or so I was in a very female dominated team which suited me very well, I got on with both senior and junior direct reports in different countries (or so I thought)...
Fast forward to my line manager going on maternity leave which meant I could get a bit more exposure to senior managers and show them what I was capable of...(she kinda played down that part of my role whilst around).
Her maternity leave also coincided with a number necessary redundancies (i.e. my team+me). I was left as (as a junior manager) trying to do the best by direct reports and also best for me. I managed to get one of my direct reports (who would have been made redundant for being a bit lazy) a job elsewhere in the firm. Others I managed to help out as well as much as possible.
Safe to say I did what I could...with what I had....I'm pleased to say no one lost their job/got made redundant.
Out of this process I also got a good job in another department.
Fast forward to this process being over - everyone still had a role BUT they all hate me...for whatever reason none of them talk to me. My previous direct reports (who hated my boss for being a controlling individual amongst other things) are all best buddies with her and each other.
I'm seen as the evil witch in the process.
It's obviously upsetting that these people think of me like this, however I can live with this - I'm now working in a great team with lovely people who don't treat me like crap and do value me; I guess my aibu is what could i have done differently? I was genuinely trying to help people and clearly I have the wrong approach...
Thanks for sticking this long...:) x

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RubySparks · 28/06/2013 22:11

It sounds a bit like shoot the messenger....

KittensoftPuppydog · 28/06/2013 22:16

Sounds like you did really well. Have confidence in your decisions. It's really hard, and people who don't have to make the decisions have no idea.

danielsmum81 · 28/06/2013 22:18

That's good to hear..so I'm not doing something fundamentally wrong?

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MammaTJ · 28/06/2013 22:20

Are you FB friends with all these people? Maybe have 'Don't shoot the messenger'' made pretty and attention grabbing as your pic?

CreatureRetorts · 28/06/2013 22:21

Get a new job? Is that an option?

danielsmum81 · 28/06/2013 22:21

I'm no longer FB friends with any of them.. felt a bit pointless:(

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danielsmum81 · 28/06/2013 22:25

My job isn't the issue - the team I'm working with are fab :) But the other people are still around. Not such a huge issue as I can avoid (big company) but guess I want to know what to do (and what not to do) next time to avoid losing what were friends

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Chottie · 28/06/2013 22:41

You sound a very caring person, you helped your team find other jobs. Perhaps they need to stick their noses out of the door and find out what a hard, cruel world it is?

Carry on being the professional you are :)

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