Hi,
I'm feeling like a domestic skivvy whose work is not appreciated. But I might be overanalysing - would like the view of Mumsnet jury. Kids are 4 and 2. I work 2 days a week, home with kids otherwise. Sorry, bit of a rant.
I was just putting dinner on the hob when DH came home - been away for 2 days, including a partial night shift. He asked "how long has it been cooking" - apparently to help, but I took it as a criticism. He said "it's not my fault the dinner is late, is it?"
He went to sit in the front room then decided to take the kids to the supermarket to buy himself beer. He looked for the kids' shoes which are wet from heavy rain at the park - still on the kitchen floor as today has been hectic and last night bedtime was awful. They can wear their wellies. He said "the shoes are still there - wet - from yesterday???" As in, I should have put them to dry out.
I said "we need groceries" and he said "great, another thing that hasn't been done." A few more cross words and he left, shouting back from the door with the kids "say goodbye to mean mummy".
Usually I would finish the dinner, but I felt angry. I am being made redundant in two weeks and really worried about even more of the household stuff falling only to me. I think the "mean" comment tipped me over. So I went for a walk and left a note "Cook your own food".
I suppose I hoped that he would phone me when he got the note and apologise. But he didn't. He got the car and went back out with the kids.
When I came home they weren't here - I phoned and no answer. They came back later and had eaten at the supermarket cafe. We haven't spoken since and I have left him to do bedtime.
It is the assumption that only he can have had a hard few days "at work" that hurts the most. He doesn't ask how my days at home are.
What next? Do I apologise to keep the peace and move on?