SIL and BIL have 5 DCs and SIL always complains saying she can't cope. Her DCs spend a lot of time with the ILs because SIL says she can't cope with them all by herself so when BIL goes to work the younger spend time there.
Anyway we got a dog 10 months as me and DH have always wanted a dog when the time was right plus our 2 eldest wanted a dog as well. SIL was grumpy when we told her we had gotten a dog. She kept saying that she wanted one but they couldn't afford it. She kept asking if ILs had payed for the dog (they had nothing to do with it)
2 weeks ago she came to visit us and she had their new dog with her. The new dog is a few years old from a rescue centre. Anyway she the dog was lovely and it was all good. Then ILs came to visit a few days later and said that SIL was already asking if ILs would walk the dog. Also 3 of her DCs are scared of the dog so it spends most of its time locked in the kitchen.
Fast-forward to this week SIL called and asked if I would walk the dog as one of her DCs was ill. I got there and the ill DC was at ILs and had been all day. SIL was also grumpy and said that the dog had started playing up and wrecking its bed. Turns out she has only walked it 2 times and she is now making BIL walk it. However BIL works 12 hour shifts so he can't walk the dog all the time. Her DCs are still scared of the dog and they won't go near it. I said may be SIL should think about rehoming the dog because it's not really fair that the dog is locked up all day.
SIL said she wouldn't and that the dog would get used to it. However she was upset that I had said something. DH agrees with me and ILs had said that they have a friend who would love to take the dog if SIL can't cope and SIL could visit the dog but she is having none of it.
So am I being unreasonable to think she should rehome the dog?