Probably being unreasonable but I have PMS

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So I don't actually care if people think I am. We are due a long break away with dh and his daughter who is preteen from tomorrow.

We usually get on very well and I have a lot of love for her but recently she's become so bloody rude, shouty and unappreciative that I am dreading tomorrow. I am sure that many many children are like this but I don't have to deal with them, I have to deal with a 9 year old who has no idea the words please or thank you exist and who will think nothing of saying 'How stupid do you feel' should you accidentally drop something.

She's hyper and talks non stop without actually making a complete sentence. Like I say normally I can handle this but I am feeling very pre menstrual and am on a short fuse.

Anyone want to take my place?!

Does your DH know you don't like his daughter?

I never said I didn't like her, I said I have a lot of love for her but that due to feeling very pre menstrual I am struggling to deal with her behaviour.

I have a 9 year old who can be a bit like this and I don't love these phases either, and I'm not sure how to deal with it. The Op clearly states that she does love this child but that the child is being difficult- I don't equate this to not liking the daughter full stop, but more clueless about how to handle the preteen strops. I would be interested to know how to handle them too!

How helpful of you Kirjava.

Titty - smile, nod, drink wine and let dh deal with dsd.
Try and enjoy your break and carve out a little time for yourself.

Ah, well I must have missed that bit. Sorry. Just imagining reading this if I were your DH is all.

My dcs can drive me ragged when I have pmt. I bite my tongue such a lot.

The trouble is I second guess myself too much and probably let some stuff go I normally wouldn't.

I think sit back, try and enjoy it and nicely tell dh he'll have to be in charge of deciding when she's out of order, or simply being a normal preteen.

kirjava here have my first

I'd tell her I'm not feeling well and that her and DH will have to be extra nice to me.

I'd make sure DH new I was on the edge and he better manage her.

Then I would bulk by chocolate, firstly for my pmt and secondly to shut her up.

YANBU. I don't like Dh when I have PMT! Does not mean i don't love him.

I agree with Geillis.

The sorry was genuine, and not sarcastic at all. But thanks for the .

OP perhaps the fact you'll all be away will brighten her mood somewhat and allow you all to relax.

My ds is 10. He is well versed in pmt, why it happens and how it works. Just think, soon you may both be going away with pmt together

Is this a ? if so I'll take 3 packs please! I gave my very patient dh fair warning today..he's bought a shop worth of chocolate, he's aware but as dsd seems to only want my company it's difficult to prize her away! I am of course flattered and I am sure in a few days once the hol is over i'll be back to my usual Mary Poppins self.

I have no clue how to handle a preteen strop I normally back away and leave dh to it unless asked otherwise!