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AIBU?

To want her to stop asking (and I have already asked her!)

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Souredstones · 27/06/2013 13:01

Colleague of mine has, just now, asked me for the umpteenth time when I will be announcing a new arrival. I'm not pregnant and struggling with ttc and its driving me mad.

Her justification is that I am a newly wed and its expected of me now to have another baby (desperately want one)

She's making me really angry now with her constant asking

All strategies welcome (as long as stabbing her with a pen isn't one...I'm considering that one now)

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RalphtheTimid · 28/06/2013 15:36

I wonder what Freud would have made of your interest in my reproductive system.
Mmm yes definitely food for thought don't you think.

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SolidGoldBrass · 28/06/2013 17:17

Or: 'I don't answer rude, nosy questions from stupid people.' Said with a bright smile.

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wildfig · 28/06/2013 17:28

I always wish I had that 1930s-ish dazzling polite/crushing way of saying, 'Gracious, what an odd question!' for situations like this.

Although coward that I am I sort of agree with those suggesting she may have no idea why it's an upsetting question, in which case you should probably say, 'I don't want to talk about/didn't you know pressure from other people is proven to impede conception?'. And THEN you can resort to freezing Mitfordism.

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AKissIsNotAContract · 28/06/2013 17:49

I like Tangled's response.

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ZillionChocolate · 28/06/2013 17:57

Midnight Scribbler's made me laugh.

If it were the first time she'd asked, I'd have gone for "don't you think that's an intrusive question and wholly inappropriate for a colleague?". Given that she keeps on at you, be blunt.

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Souredstones · 28/06/2013 19:45

I am loving these responses and will have to put them into use...saying that...guess what we got yesterday...

Here's hoping it sticks and runs the course!

I'm still going to give her a mouthful if she asks again though!!

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ChasedByBees · 28/06/2013 20:19

Oooh!! Doesn't want to assume.... But ooh!

Just to be absolutely clear - what are you hoping sticks?

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Shitsinger · 28/06/2013 20:24

"Its none of your business, repeat, repeat ,repeat ...

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Roshbegosh · 28/06/2013 20:27

You have to work together though, I think a less confrontational way than Hecsy's would be better. You can be blunt and clear without threatening her.

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LEMisdisappointed · 28/06/2013 20:29

"Stop fucking asking me, trust me, when i get pregnant, you will be the last to know"

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greenfolder · 28/06/2013 20:51

oohhh fingers crossed!

however, if you share a line manager- tell them to tell her to stfup

i am indeed a line manager and i have twice had to tell busy bodies who should know better to butt out of these kind of converstations.

that is one thing you never ask or refer to in any way shape or form.

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Souredstones · 29/06/2013 08:33

I think I will have a word with my line manager if she doesn't stop it. But I will feel a bit of a mug when I start to show!

Yeah I'm still on a high from my bfp.

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ChasedByBees · 29/06/2013 09:32

Yay for BFP!! I didn't want to ask outright after this thread.

Good idea to have a word with your line manager.

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Dontlookbehindyou · 29/06/2013 09:41

Congratulations on your bfp!
I'm always being asked when ill be having a little brother or sister for ds (2) I just tell then the truth and they shut up pretty quick and never ask again.
If love another one but can't have any more or it'll put me in a wheelchair, it wouldn't be fair on ds or the hypothetical new baby.