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To think that it would be nice if someone gave a shit that I'm not feeling well?

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Nonalphamum · 27/06/2013 10:07

I've been poorly for a few days, and have had 2 doctors trips, one of which was to the emergency doctors in the night. I will hopefully feel better quickly now I have more medication but no one seems to give a shit that I am ill.

DH doesn't care. He wouldn't take me to the emergency doctors in the night and when I got back he was asleep. He was annoyed with me this morning as he was tired, and has just phoned me up to 'see how I am' but using a really exasperated tone. Basically he just wants me to get better and shut up, and stop causing him inconvenience.

My family don't care. I've tried in the past asking my parents or my sister to help if I'm ill and they don't want to know and certainly don't care about me feeling ill. If my sister is ill it's a different story and they run around after her, looking after her children and doing everything they can to help.

And no local friends seem to care. I always help friends out with their children if they are ill or if they need help for other reasons. They all seem to help each other out. If many of them did a facebook status about feeling ill, lots of others would jump on with offers of help. I did a status early this morning saying how ill I feel, and two local friends just replied with a 'oh dear, hope you feel better soon'. No offers of help, nothing.

I really could do with a day in bed but the kids are off school for an inset day so I'll try to carry on as normal. It just would be nice if someone would offer to take my kids for an hour or two so I can rest. I think I'm going to seriously fall out with a lot of people in my life very soon.

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Travelledtheworld · 27/06/2013 10:15

I have been in this situation. people just assume you will cope.

Once so Ill I could not move without throwing up.

Sorry but I think you actually have to ASK someone. Phone someone with kids the same ge and ask can you take my kids out to the park for a couple of hours so I can get some sleep.

nd offer to do the same for their kids next time it is an INSET day.

And if they say no don't be rude, just sob quietly and say OK..... :(

Nonalphamum · 27/06/2013 10:17

It just hurts the way some of my friends only have to post a status saying they have broken a nail and friends are popping on to say is there anything they can do to help. Also I think family should step up to the mark in situations like that and should want to help.

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HighBrows · 27/06/2013 10:21

You poor thing, I think you should ask for help too.

I hope you get better soon. Flowers

Jinsei · 27/06/2013 10:21

You poor thing, that's awful. I agree, can you ask someone for help - even if you shouldn't have to?

Hope you feel better soon.

Latara · 27/06/2013 10:22

You're right, your family and friends should be more helpful and considerate especially your DH.

I would be having words when you are better.

Meanwhile hope you do get some help and a rest at some point and feel better soon.

Nonalphamum · 27/06/2013 16:57

A friend popped round this afternoon and helped me out a bit, which was nice of her.

I've tried talking about it to DH before but he doesn't care. He hates the kids or I being ill. All he wants is no inconvenience to himself. I have told him on the phone this afternoon he'll need to cook tea tonight for him and the kids and he wasn't very happy

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saulaboutme · 27/06/2013 17:35

It's really tough. So sorry you are ill.

He does need to pull his socks up though, and give you some tlc.

Get well soon.

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