To be unable to stop wondering where this girl is?

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You know how some news stories just 'get to you' more than others? This story about the missing student, Yulia, who disappeared on 7th June in Edinburgh, has really got under my skin.

They've now found footage of her that day in Glasgow, so she's got on a bus to Glasgow without telling anyone and without her phone. She hasn't used her passport, bank accounts or social networking since. Her dad was due over from Russia about two days later.

(www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-23047299 )

I know it sounds insane but I can't stop thinking about this young girl - wondering where she is and why? :(

The poster upthread who mentioned the guy called Vinny in Manchester. He was eventually found, beside the Mersey near to where he lived. His body had somehow not been found for years and, upsettingly for his family, his mobile phone was with him, so IIRC if the police had taken his disappearance seriously from the off, it still would have been in charge and they could have traced him by its location.

www.guardian.co.uk/uk/the-northerner/2012/feb/22/missing-man-road-traffic-accident

As a teenager, the James Bulger case really got to me. I also remember Sophie Hook (who was abducted from a tent in Llandudno). A harrowing detail of her story that I read in the newspaper at the time will stay with me forever.

Some cases get to me more than others. I find myself staring into the eyes of a missing child's photo, thinking if only you could tell us what has happened to you. Some of the missing children that have affected me most are those that were the same age as my ds like Hollie and Jessica. We were away on quite a difficult holiday when they were missing and I kept thinking I don't care what happens on holiday, it doesn't matter if my ds is sick on a coach or we lose all our luggage or anything, just as long as he's safe with us, the rest doesn't matter.

My sister has been missing for 10 years. She was in her 40s, lived in N America and went travelling there for the summer, but also gave up her rented flat and job, then contact just stopped and no one has ever heard anything since. When I hear of someone being found who has been missing for years and had been kidnapped, I worry in case that has happened to her and wonder if there's more I should be doing. I used the Salvation Army Family Tracing Service and a private detective and they found nothing. The police just take the attitude that she's chosen to lose touch. It makes me angry that there would probably have been evidence of her movements at the time if the police had been willing to treat her as missing, such as proof that she'd crossed the borders between the U.S. and Canada or got on a plane or used a passport or credit card. She was a very sociable person and I don't believe she deliberately lost contact with everyone.

I'm actually not sure I want to know the truth if it's bad news. I worry for my ds who is autistic. I feel that if we found out she'd been murdered, he would become very scared. So maybe not knowing is for the best. Usually I'm the kind of person who would rather know but now I feel I only want to know if she's alive and can be helped. I went through a stage of waiting for every postal delivery in case she wrote and being jittery if a dustcart with flashing lights stopped outside in case it was the police, but most of the time we just get on with our lives. I think of her as having lost touch and maybe one day we'll know more.

DeWe - I always think of the same story. I remember reading it in my parents paper (going through a phase of reading their paper at breakfast) and I think it was the first time I realised that there were horrific things that could happen :( I was probably about 10 at time and it haunted me for a long time

Holly wells and Jessica chapman are often in my thoughts and its strange the thins you remember. I was watching GMTV when they were still missing and they interviewed a woman who said shed seen them the day after they'd disappeared at about 6am, walking past her house. At the time I thought it odd because you'd rush out wouldn't you but now it's obvious she was lying, why?

I often think of James Bulger and feel unreasonably affected by his killing. I know it might seem disrespectful to his family but I have often wept for him and his parents.
Lots of ppl have told me they have these intrusive thoughts, especially when there's a connection of some sort (like a child of a similar age) or when their mood is a bit low.
Sorry, it's vy hard sometimes isn't it?

BeaWheesht, I think the woman just saw 2 girls walk past her house and later when she learned of the 2 missing girls she reported it as she thought it might be them. So she probably wasn't lying, just mistaken, and she had no reason to rush out just because 2 girls were walking past her house.

At the moment it's not a disappearance or a murder that keeps coming to the forefront of my mind , but a fatal road accident . About a week today on a road that I use every day , a young lad died in a three car pile up . He'd finished his a levels that very morning , and by 2pm he was dead . There is a huge amount of tributes at the scene , and last night coming home from work , there was a family standing there , reading them with the woman in tears . As I slowed down to pass them , the man looked straight into my eyes , and I know , I just know that he was the young man's dad .

Maybe it's because my DS1 is about to learn to drive , and maybe it's because he's started being driven by his friends , but I can't stop thinking about how they must feel .

At 6am? I think I'd head out if I saw 2 kids out then.

Intrusive thoughts! Yes. I am very prone to them. That and the identification and the fact that I am coming off Champix would explain why the terrible life and death of Daniel Pelka has affected me so much.

Plomino, how sad

Yes the Andrew Gosdan case has always upset me

Also the girl who worked on the Disney cruise who must have fallen overboard.

God yes, holly and Jessica,I was living in Cambridge at the time, and felt like I was looking for them where ever I went while they were missing, everyone felt the same, because there kept being sightings reported.

I went to v festival and left the site to go get a paper to see if there was any news, and they had found them, I was absolutely gutted :(

The ones that stick with me are jamie Bulger, probably because it was around the time ds1 was born. Madeline McCann because she was the same age as ds2 and we went to Portugal a couple of months after it happened. Also a case in south Africa where the baby was taken from hospital and the parents got her back when she was around 22 months old.

Jan49, that must be terribly hard for you. I can't even imagine how I'd feel. I really hope your sister turns up safe and well.

Take care

Jan You sound very strong....(hugs)

Thanks, Agent and Neo.

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Jan49, thank you for sharing your story. Just can't imagine, and don't want to, how hard that must be for you all

Thank you Wholetthedogin. I'm not even sure I should have shared my story here as this thread is really about missing children, but I thought I would share how I felt as it was totally different from how I imagined I would feel about a missing loved one. I certainly had thought about it before that. I remember saying to my h that I'd rather know the truth than have him disappear and not know if he's dead or had an accident or gone off of his own accord. But when it happened to our family, I wanted to know the truth but was worried about what I'd have to tell our son and 10 years on it feels like if we had bad news it would be worse for everyone than never knowing.