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ladybrady22 · 26/06/2013 20:55

This is a really stupid issue but I'm pretty stressed at the moment and it's bothering me more than it normally would. I have a friend who I've known for years and been back in touch with for a couple of years now. We meet for drinks and a catch up about once every three months. I was starting to feel like it was always me suggesting this so I stopped this a few months ago and he immediately arranged a get together. All fine and nice. He's suddenly started taking ages to return any texts and being rather off-hand and 'bloke-like' in his replies and is basically coming over as rude and a bit of an ass. I suggested a couple of weeks ago that we should catch up and he eventually responded that it was a good idea he then took a week to get back to me saying that if I wanted to get together that weekend then he'd sqeeze me in if I liked. I have responded, making it clear that I was now busy and was not just there to be fitted in as a favour.

I know it doesn't matter and in the wake of all the other stresses that are going on now it's a little thing but its just upset me. I'd actually have really liked to just sit down and had a good chat with this friend this weekend but I'll be damned if I'm going to be treated like someone to be fitted in as if he's doing me a favour. I spent too many years with my nasty xh trying to make me feel small without letting anyone get away with this now.

Don't know what I expect anyone to say. Just feel rubbish. Half of me wants to text again and say actually lets meet up but I just cant trample on my self-respect to that degree. Am I completely over-reacting here? Getting away from EA xh and now facing reduncancy and a whole host of other issues and my radar for unreasonableness is completely shot. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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MoonlightandRoses · 26/06/2013 21:07

YANBU - doesn't sound as though you are. Think you're right to steer clear. It is upsetting when someone who's meant to be a friend acts like this, but better dropping the contact again now, than realising when you actually do, that you should have months ago, IYSWIM?

JoinTheDots · 26/06/2013 21:14

YANBU

I would suggest you meet up with a different friend or friends - people who actually make you feel good about yourself and appreciated - so that you remember what a friend should be like.

ladybrady22 · 26/06/2013 21:43

Thanks for the replies. I think you're right and it might be time for me to stop putting effort into this friendship. It's really disapponting to see someone you liked behave like this but it's a good sign that its time to move forward and focus on those friends who are supportive and seem to want to be around me. So I'll hold my head up high and move on without sacrificing my own self-respect.

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