To want to run away and hide in a corner

[OhDearNigel]

1. fil is at the end of his cancer journey and has been hospitalised today with every likelihood he will die before the weekend. We were supposed to be going away (whole family) to have one last family holiday but he has gone downhill much quicker than we imagined. dh is beside himself. He is staying with MIL for the foreseeable future to support her. Poor SIL is stuck in spain on a holiday she never wanted to take
2. this has happened in a week where i have a mountain of committments and paperwork for the end of my rotary year. I cannot get out of them.
3. have got through another stage in my application to go back to being a police officer but the next stage is an application form which has to be done for monday or thats it, game over
4. we recieved the full asking price for our house currently for rent today. Which was great, its been up since january. Only problem - they want to move in in two weeks :0 we have nowhere to go and will have to stay with my parents until we find somewhere

I am consoling myself in my local turkish restaurant with wine.

Oh sweet jesus - I want to run away for you :(

Oh you poor thing. ((hugs)) and I don't care if they're unmnetty.

The only practical thing I can think of is you don't have to move in 2 weeks. That's crazy - go back with a counter offer of 12 weeks, meet in the middle around 6/8.

Have you phoned the police recruitment people and told them exactly what's going on? You may be able to get an extension.

For the rotary thing, can anyone else help you out? I know day-to-day it's hard getting people to volunteer to do things, but when there's serious illness it really does bring out the best in people.

x

Wilson, im president, we have 3 events this week i have to attend and prepare speeches for. Tonight's is done but friday is the last night of my presidency and we have a big dinner dance. PILs were meant to come but cant obviously now which makes me so sad. Have roped my secretary into helping me

Re police application i already work for the police so hope i will have examples for the competency questions in other application forms ive done recently.

If we dont move she will go elsewhere. Her property is being bought by investors who are keen to get it rented and she is being pressured to move like yesterday. We are happy to do it rather than lose the sale but i keep thinking "how the fuck are we going to manage this"

You will get through this.

How do you eat an elephant - one bite at a time.

I'm sorry to hear about FIL, I'm glad DH is supporting his mum (and she is supporting him).

Perhaps divide the tasks into blocks and allocate time to each one.

1. Put as much as is humanly possible into storage - it's only short-term and you can manage at your DPs for a couple of months. 2) It's well worth paying the removal firm to pack for you - they are much quicker and have all the boxes etc. 3) Get through Friday's 'do' - leave as early as possible (with the reason that you have got people will understand) 4) Complete application form either when you get home on Friday (if you are a night-owl) or very, very early on Sat (if you are a morning person). Hand it in on Saturday. I agree with Chaz - eat that elephant one bite at a time...! My deepest sympathy to you and your family

How long until you can move somewhere else? Could it be an option to get a short lease and rent until you move into your own place?

Could sil speak to the airline she's booked with about moving her flight forward due to the circumstances?

Sorry for your troubles.Hope It's not inappropriate but have to say that your cakes on your profile look absolutely gorgeous.May God bless your FIL and make his death as peaceful and painless as possible.Hope that the other things work out for you and your family.

That is a hell of a lot to cope with, just try and do a bit at a time for all of them. I'm so sorry you've got so much going on all at once, I hope you're fils passing is calm and your sil is back in time

your father in law is about to die.

Forget about yourself for 2 mins and support your husband whilst he goes through the trauma of losing a parent

Everything else can wait

also why are you renting your house out if you have no where else to go

She's not - her house has been on the market for a year and they now have a sale, but with a ridiculously short closing.