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Original poster

To think DP could have been a little bit more enthusiastic?

26 replies

Kyrptonite · 26/06/2013 12:49

I passed my driving test today. It's taken ages and was my second attempt. It now means that I can take the kids to school/nursery, I don't have to rely on DP for lifts and can do the 100 mile trip to get DSD some weekends so that it's less stress for him.
I text him when I got my certificate as he was on nights last night and asleep. I've just had a reply saying 'well done'. Nothing else, not even an x on the end or an I'm proud of you.

I feel ridiculously hurt. I'm 29 weeks pregnant, I have spent a week in a panic over this test and it's being written off as fuck all.

I am being unreasonable aren't I? We are having a few problems at the moment anyway but now I feel so completely unimportant to him it's unreal.

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Shinyshoes1 · 26/06/2013 12:56

I think you are over thinking this

He said "well done " what more do you want . He's been on nights . I know when my DP is on nights I don't disturb him for any reason as he gets very pissed off

Btw well done

wonderingsoul · 26/06/2013 12:57

some may say you are.

but i dont.

when it comes to a loved one, esp a partner iwould show more enthusisim.
maybe hes just woken up and still groggy and when you do see him he will be more with it.

you shoudl expect no less then a hug, kiss and being asked to take them on a spin round the block

and no more then a car for your self ;)

Crinkle77 · 26/06/2013 12:58

I think YAB a little U. Was he trying to sleep when you texted him and maybe he was a bit annoyed? He may be a bit more forthcoming when you see him in person. Just wait and see for now.

crumblepie · 26/06/2013 12:58

well done Thanks hopefully he will be a bit more awake and happier for you by now .

Original poster
Kyrptonite · 26/06/2013 13:01

He told me to text him as soon as I knew. I said I would wait until he woke up this afternoon but he insisted. I am overthinking it, I know I am it just hurts a bit that he couldn't have waited until he was properly awake to be a bit happier!

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WhoNickedMyName · 26/06/2013 13:01

He's been on nights and you've woken him with a text?

As well as that he's been doing school and nursery runs, 100 mile round trips of a weekend and you've been relying on him for lifts.

He said well done. YABU.

waddlecakes · 26/06/2013 13:03

YABU I'm a light sleeper and am sometimes woken up by texts, so I reply and fall straight back to sleep. When I reread the texts I've sent, they are always the bare minimum because I reply because it's important, but am not thinking straight enough to pad it out with any extras.

imnotmymum · 26/06/2013 13:05

if it was face to face and a well done and walk off then that different. H e was asleep he asked you to let him know and he said well done.
Just enjoy your passing of test and the overthinking.
well done you

Cravingdairy · 26/06/2013 13:06

You did what he asked, he can hardly complain. Well done!

MaxPepsi · 26/06/2013 13:53

Congratulations.

I think your DP is being a grumpy arse.

YANBU

Rollmops · 26/06/2013 16:31

He said 'Well done' - what else is he supposed to say? Confused
You are clearly over-thinking this, it's a non-issue, don't turn it into a meaningless fight between you two.
Congratulations on passing your test.

cantspel · 26/06/2013 16:39

He asked you to wake him after he had been on nights with your result and then texted back well done when you passed.
If it was unimportant to him he wouldn't have wanted to be woken, nor would he have bothered answering your text.

What more do you really expect?

ImperialBlether · 26/06/2013 16:46

WhoNickedMyName - he's doing 100 mile round trips to pick up his own child ffs!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 26/06/2013 16:47

Well mobile phones weren't really de rigeur when I passed but I imagine I would have had a one word text - "Thud".

It too me six attempts to pass. Grin

Congrats, OP. Stop being put out or in a sulk and talk to him.

Beeyump · 26/06/2013 16:50

I don't think you should judge his reaction on the strength of a text - their tone can be totally misinterpreted, I think!

Well Done... Wink

MrsLouisTheroux · 26/06/2013 16:50

Have you seen him yet OP? Maybe you woke him and 'we'll done' was sent half asleep!
Well done BTW! :) 💐

MrsLouisTheroux · 26/06/2013 16:51

Well not we'll!

Onesleeptillwembley · 26/06/2013 16:54

Ok, he said to text, so can't blame you for that. But tbh I wouldn't expect any more than you got from him, it's the middle of the night to him. Well done, though.

nemno · 26/06/2013 16:54

Give him a chance and don't judge his actual feelings on a half asleep text.

Well done though!

Justforlaughs · 26/06/2013 16:55

Wait until you get home and see what he says then. Tbh, I've told people to text me when I'm going to be asleep, it always seems such a good idea at the time, but actually it's really hard to get enthusiastic over anything when you've been woken up from a deep sleep. If he doesn't say anything when you see him later, then he's an arse, but give him the benefit of the doubt. Congratulations on passing your test, anyway. Thanks would have given you Wine but then you wouldn't be able to drive Grin

DespicableYou · 26/06/2013 16:58

YANBU, OP.

Some people must have a really distant relationship with their own partners if they can't understand why you feel hurt.

Startail · 26/06/2013 16:58

Congratulations!
Texts are beyond my DH even when wide awake. Well done would be his limit too, if he could remember how to send one at all.

(DH can write complex computer code, but smart phones are beyond him Hmm)

livinginwonderland · 26/06/2013 17:30

YANBU, I'd be annoyed too!

Congratulations! :)

TigerSwallowTail · 26/06/2013 17:41

Yanbu, I'd be a bit hurt too. He told you to text him as soon as he knew so waking him up with a text shouldn't have been an issue. Hopefully he'll be a bit more enthusiastic when you get home.

Congratulations Thanks

SupermansBigRedPants · 26/06/2013 19:25

Hope he's made it up to you by now!

Congratulations :)