to blank someone on the train that wont stop.talking to.me

[whiteandyellowiris]

On.the way to London for a serious hospital appointment

Sat opposite a woman
She's keen for conversation I.politely humoured her for 10 mins but she wouldn't stop talking at me

Telling me all about her shop in the west end and how she's got a terribly important function ontoday that she didn't want to go to blah blah blah

Soafter 10-15 I just started ignoring her which.does make me feel.guilty
But I can't take an hour.of this not today

Anyway after 10 mins of being ignorned
She.got up and moved

And now she's talking at this.man
Telling him that people are scared of her

And going on and on

Then she.just said.to this man oh look at those two meaning me and my dh
They are.not even talking to each other

Well that's me told then!

I how you got there without too much fuss in the end op. Good luck at the appointment

I hope your appointment goes well, it's horrible waiting for information and not knowing what your answer will be.

YANBU you may feel bad but please don't. You have a lot going on and you are unlikely to ever see her again. People that ignore obvious communication cues and social convention will end up being told to fuck off by folk far less polite than you. If you trounce people's feelings you have to suck it up if the same happens to you.
End of the day you are both having a stressful time, you are strangers on a train, not mates, and she's being a bit of a drama queen about it.
Don't let the silly sod play on your mind, she'll be over it & will find something else to harp on about in minutes.

Sounds like she's on coke

Agree with you Doedeer.

I wouldn't take this woman's comments to heart OP. It does sound as if she is preoccupied with her own issues at the moment.

If you're feeling a bit fragile at the moment I would move seats, or to another carriage if necessary. Look after yourself.

Good luck with your hospital appointment

I hope that your appointment goes well, that's the most important thing.

You are not responsible for her at all. Just try to ignore her, or move carriages to get out of her way and leave her snivelling to herself.

This happened to me quite recently on a train. Train was nearly empty and this woman sat right next to me (forcing me to move my dd onto my lap) and bleated on about whatever came into her head.

I feigned the need to stretch my legs (partly true as I have a dicky knee) and stood up for 10 mins. That got rid of her.

I agree with Doedeer, my sister was diagnosed with bipolar a few years ago. Most of the time she appeared to be lovely (if a bit full on) but then other times it could switch and she'd become the complete opposite. It's possible this woman has a mental problem of some sort, or maybe social issues. Perhaps she was just lonely.

Either way you didn't do anything wrong, you had a lot on your mind and dealt with it the best way you could at the time. Yes you could have been clearer and more tactful in your approach but hindsight in a wonderful thing, and it sounds like she wouldn't have taken lightly to that either.

I hope the appointment went well

thanks for the advice, we are home again now
all went well witht the hospital appointment
that's the main thing

I have thought about the train event, and I have a strong feeling that even if I had of said oh do you know what, I really don't feel like chatting today, im sure you understand
then proceeded to ignore her
I still think she would have kicked off in some way, due tot he way she was saying things about us loudly on purpose

anyway next time im in that situation I will follow advice on here to simply say I don't feel like chatting today, im sure you understand

thanks a lot for helping me feel less guilty, I had a stressful enough of a day as it was

That all sounds very positive. It's always useful to be armed with some stock phrases!
Glad appointment went well, that's the main thing

oh thanks
me too, so happy it went well

If someone's that oblivious to the effect they're having, then asking them not to keep talking might just result in huffiness. I think I'd have moved carriage.

Great thinking milbracat will try the have you considered letting jesus into your life when I want some
Peace :)

Yes, she might have been just the same, of course. It's just that you said you felt guilty, and it might have helped with that, even though you had no reason to, of course.
Glad your appointment was ok.

yes I think if I had of said, sorry I don't feel like chatting today, I would have felt less guilty, and I will definatley do that next time
about time I grew a pair of balls and started to assert myself in a polite way

She was unreasonable. You were rude.

Thing is with the Jesus question, she might ask you to explain the Christian faith as she's always been interested to find out more! It just has to happen to someone who doesn't actually want to talk about it, instead of someone who's desperately trying to evangelise

Oh I would not risk bringing religion up, goodness knows what she would come out with

People don't talk to me, I give off hostile vibes

I wish gave off hostile vibes too

I'm working on it

I'll swap OP, I'm naturally a bit "stay away" so could do with being more friendly

I tend to do the one-word answers, turning away, ignoring, and then if that doesn't work, turning round and yelling 'FUCK OFF AND LEAVE ME ALONE.' Because people who ignore obvious cues like turning away and going silent have forfeited the right to polite treatment: they are either rude arseholes or people with some issue or other that is not my problem. Don't feel bad, OP, no one is entitled to interaction with you.

Maybe you could try the line "I'd like to talk with you about Jesus" if she didn't come across as a biblebasher. She's probably hightail it out of there.

I hate it when people force conversation on you on the train. An older guy (older than me, not elderly) once asked what was in my magazine. I was finished and I didn't feel like chatting so I offered it to him to read. He said in an authoritative voice 'no I would prefer it if you read to me'
Loon.