to be very annoyed with dh?

[MerryMarigold]

For giving a child who'd been vomiting earlier in the evening, water and biscuits and then putting him in our double bed whilst he took off to ds's bed. He did put a bucket next to the bed. But ds is 4 ffs. Not likely to wake up and think, "Ah, I need to be sick, let me just find out where the bucket is, in a strange bedroom". So, I got projectile vomited on, bed clothes, and ds. That was 2am and I have not been able to sleep since. I now have a full on day.

I am so cross. Yes, he dealt with ds for a few hours whilst I went to sleep. I wouldn't have minded doing it, but he was getting on with it, and he'd clearly had enough by 1.30.

So, should I make him take a day off work because I do not want to look after twins today on a couple of hours of sleep.

YABU. You are not working at the moment and your husband is. In your position I took on all the child care duties. I know twins are hard work (I am one) especially with a four year old as well - but at least he was trying. Considerably more than a lot of men do. I think you should appreciate that he was trying to do his best and that accidents happen.

I didn't realise you weren't aware he was there!!
Hmmm...that does change things somewhat. That is very thoughtless of your dh. A warning is required at the very least!

I think you're all missing the point there... OP said she would give the child NOTHING to eat and then put him/her in the with HERSELF.

OP's DH managed to feed the kid, put him into bed with the sleeping and oblivious OP and go sleep in a different bed far away from the problem himself. Very handy for him.

Two totally different things!

OP YANBU.

Garcia10 I guess your DH gets husband of the year award if he manages to pick up his dirty underwear from the floor and put it in the washing bin?

{slow clap}

Go away with your "he's a man, at least he tried" sexist crap please.

Not sexist crap at all. When I was at home I did all the child care. I know that it is anathema on this site but when one goes out to work I believe the other should do the child care.

I rarely post on here because of the vitriolic replies which are posted when someone disagrees with the consensus and you have just proved my point - in an aggressive and far from eloquent manner.

Would it have been so difficult for you to say 'I'm sorry but I don't agree with you' and explained why without the sarcasm and profanity?

I think you have to make sure you both have some free time and some decent sleep. Just because you are not 'working for money' doesn't mean days aren't just as busy or that you don't have responsibility.
To be honest, I do usually do sick kids, but dh was already involved when I went to bed (I'd had some friends round) and said I shouldn't take over, so I thought: YES!

He is a great dh, really. He does tons with kids. Just the general thoughtlessness of what happened and not a hint of an apology either which made me so cross.