blowing fag smoke into my house

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An acquaintance just came to the door to borrow something. He's a very charming older gentleman, and the husband of our local parish councillor. I'm very fond of him. Anyway, he was obviously in mind for a chat which was fine, but halfway through he lit up and blew lots of smoke into my house! I'm a bit sad as I really like and respect him, but surely that was a bit unreasonable? My house smells of fag smoke now!

Plus I'm an ex smoker and it took every inch of willpower not to ask him for one

He is from that generation where it was acceptable to smoke anywhere and people never made a big deal out of it so he probably didn't do it on purpose.

Oh it definitely wasn't done on purpose to offend. I was just a bit . His wife would have been horrified!

Why on earth didn't you say something if you were that upset and offended?

probably not offensive, just thoughtless.

I would have said 'excuse me, I'll shut the door while you smoke and we'll continue when you are finished'. I have said that to a smoker who was outside and he thought it quite reasonable.

Its not something I would get het up about as a one off.

I also wouldn't loose respect for someone for doing it.

We are flooded with smoke from neighbours on a daily basis though, so one old man on a one off sounds like heaven to me.

I wasn't offended. Just a bit and surprised I guess.

I don't think many smokers realise how standing outside but still close to a door can result in a really strong smell of smoke indoors. I have this with several friends and have to politely remind them to step further away and shut the door. Like them, he probably assumed that because he was outside the door, rather than inside it, he didn't need to do anything more.