AIBU?
To chase down all the people who told me the second child is easier...
vvviola · 25/06/2013 08:08
... and make them take DD2 for at least an afternoon 
DD1 has always been fairly intense - but more verbally, than anything else (early talker, insatiable curiosity, stream of consciousness chatter) although it's combined with the energy of an over exciteable puppy. She's great fun, but hard work.
When I was pg with DD2, I used to joke that another one like DD1 (then 4) would send me batty (I'm an introvert with not huge amounts of tolerance for silliness). I was assured that the second was easier.
Even if we ignore the allergy issues & connected worry (for us) and lack of sleep (for her & by extension us)... They lied. All of them.
Today (a relatively good day) DD2 (now 22 months) has: climbed or balanced on: sofa back, high chair, two toddler bikes, kitchen gate, shelves (in an attempt to get biscuits) and dining table. She has also stolen my glasses and run off cackling, kicked me repeatedly when I tried to change her nappy,,and hidden under a blanket shouting "gone".
In the car she managed to get one arm out of the harness and pull at the door level (thankfully child locked).
She has also given me sloppy kisses. "Put me to bed" when I was sitting on the couch, giggled at my singing, blown raspberries at me, and produced her first 4 word sentence (more pear mummy, yum 
)
She will turn me grey before she turns two. She's many things: Houdini, comedian, acrobat, minx,trouble.... but one thing she isn't is easier.
ten minutes and counting til bedtime
dinkystinky · 25/06/2013 08:11
My second child was definitely not easier than my first - I think somethings are easier because you know about nappies/weaning/bfing etc, but they are different personalities and adjusting to that is pretty hard! DS2 was a handful from 7 months to 3 - then at 3 suddenly turned into a charming little person. He's still spirited but at least now he listens. Hang on in there.
Sokmonsta · 25/06/2013 08:12
I agree wholeheartedly. Dd1 was a dream baby. We knew we could not be so lucky again and boy were we right. Ds1 is a right handful. Doesn't sleep well, eats poorly. Behaviour... well it leaves a lot to be desired. Always has done. Weirdly dts (dd2 and ds2) are much easier again!
DeWe · 25/06/2013 09:50
Mine have got personality more difficult.
I give the example of if I drew a line and said don't cross.
Dd1 wouldn't go near the line in case she accidently crossed it.
Dd2 would go right up with her toes on the line to see how close she can go.
Ds would run across with speed to see how far over the line he could get before he was caught.
But I still found dd2 and ds were easier in some ways. Firstly I knew better what I was doing. But also they were entertained by the older ones, so I didn't need to be the only source of entertainment.
TanglednotTamed · 25/06/2013 10:49
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That seems familiar. OP, are you one of my DC?
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It works for us! DC3 just slotted right in, and the other two keep her completely entertained, so she is unbelievably easy. But she has only slept through the night about 3 times in her life and she's now 2, though, so maybe she makes up the attention deficit then
shelley72 · 25/06/2013 10:55
You see I would have said that my first was 'challenging' - sounds just like yours op, demanding constantly chatting, asking questions, commenting on everything.
That was until my second came along.
She is far more difficult - into everything I struggle to keep her safe on a daily basis. Also has had sleep allergy and speech issues. Good job she's very loving and cute and that you can't return them
Sparklysilversequins · 25/06/2013 11:08
I was staggered at how much harder a second child was. Utterly back breaking. She was very High Needs and her Dad did NOTHING. We are not together now.
My first child ds was so quiet and calm, slept through at 6 weeks etc. napped three hours every day between 2 & 5 without fail. Was totally expecting another the same.
I always said if I had had dd first I would never have had another.
SugarMiceInTheRain · 25/06/2013 11:08
My second as an individual was much easier than my first. However having 2 children to run round after was a shock - going from 1-2 was far harder IME than going from 0-1. Somebody please tell me it's easier going from 2-3? (Pregnant with #3 after a bit of a gap)
mamachelle · 25/06/2013 11:12
i think its dc3 you need to be prepared for! dc1 and 2 slept well and were content babies, turning into partners in crime and mischief making toddlers.
dc3 was a content baby but my god she is stubborn, emotional and everywhere! think jekyll and hide crossed with a whirlwind! she is 4.5 now and will start sch in sept. i do hope they are ready for her!
i cant wait to see what dc4 is like :)
gemdrop84 · 25/06/2013 11:35
Ha ha, must say that's what people told me but had a feeling ds would be hard work from when I was pregnant and didn't believe it! Started at my 12 wk scan, he wouldn't keep still to be measured. At the 20wk scan the sonographer found it hilarious when he was wriggling around and was hitting the probe with his fist when she was trying to look at his heart. Dd slept through from 6 wks, napped for 2 hrs twice a day, was happy being left in bouncy chair to play whilst we got on with things. Ds likes to fight his sleep, has only just started having a good nights sleep, hardly naps and doesn't like to be left alone. They're like chalk and cheese!
vvviola · 25/06/2013 12:09
You know sparklysilver, you've just made me realise - when DD2 was tiny (pre-6 months when the allergies kicked in & pre-toddler independence) I may have made some comment about how DD2 was so easy that if I'd had her first I'd be on number 4 by now.
Maybe I tempted fate and it's all my own fault
Wouldn't change either of them for the world though but would do anything for pause and mute buttons
eragon · 25/06/2013 12:19
my first was pretty laid back. a placid happy baby, and toddler,once we got over the colic and poor sleep. (well we thought it was poor sleep pattern in our innocence.)
2nd baby was born, coughed a little and fell asleep. he remained a laid back contented baby and child.
3rd baby. never slept, and and was very high need.
4th was ok once we got over the colic. again placid and easy.
it depends on the human infant you make each time, same genes, but different bake.
stopgap · 25/06/2013 12:21
Currently pregnant with number two, and hoping and praying that child number two is easier than my first as a baby, who:
Had silent reflux for close to a year
Would scream for up to ten hours a day
Had to be worn constantly/breastfed hourly
Zero tummy time
Would not go in a pushchair without screaming
Could not be in a car longer than ten minutes without balling
All that being said, DS is now 22 months and an absolute dream. We took him to a bluegrass concert the other night, and he sat on my knee and didn't make a peep for 90 minutes. Yes, he has the usual toddler tantrums, but overall he's a funny, mostly laid-back, incredibly sweet little boy.
I don't want to curse myself, but maybe I would take a year of newborn hell in exchange for an easy toddler.
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