To be pissed off at friend who is such a SKIVER!

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Hi all - these AIBU posts have saved my sanity on many an occasion while feeding a baby in the night so it's about time I put one out there of my own!

Basically I have a friend who is such a skiver from work! She is a doctor in a surgery and will take any opportunity to not go in - regardless of how much work it takes to fill rotas and how the rest of the team have to pick up the slack.

She is oblivious to her rapidly diminishing reputation and to be honest, with my management hat on, I'm starting to get pissed off. It is affecting the way I see her, I'm getting very judgey of her behaviour and I'm blatantly trying to avoid spending time with her while she is behaving in this way.

AIBU? Should I be trying to get to the bottom of this or should I just accept the fact that not everyone is bought up to think skiving is terrible. In my opinion paid employment means that you are paid to do something whether you enjoy it or not. Work doesn't OWE you. And as an educated adult, if you don't like your job - take control of your life and move on.

Cheers ladies!

Incidentally, if you're like this with any staff you manage, don't be.

I'm not - I find it much easier when it is work colleagues, I think it's because it seems easier to accept that they may not hold the same values - does that make sense?

As I said - writing it down and reflecting on the comments here has made me see this situation differently to be honest - hence the crap AIBU thread!

I know you've changed your mind, so you're not having a go... but why do you care so much? Reading the thread, I thought you were one of her colleagues having to pick up the slack or something, but you don't even work with her

I think it's because when she talks to me about work (which is a topic I tend to try to minimise) its often about how she was tired from staying up late so took a day off (for example) and I just find it difficult. .

As I said, if she was a colleague it would be quite different. I work in a clinical setting also, and I understand entirely the effect that this could (and almost definitely is) having on the team she works with. Sorry - should have made that clearer in my post.

But - having reflected on it I will be seeing what I can do to help.