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To take depression medication.

67 replies

UnsureAndNameChanged · 24/06/2013 18:21

I have a doctors appointment on Friday and I know the GP will give me tablets for anxiety and depression.

I really don't know what to do, I am getting worse and so is my panic attacks and I do want to be able to control my moods without tablets.

I just feel there is so much stigma on being on tablets to help me function.

My house is a tip, I am tired all the time but can't sleep and I can not remember the last time I was happy. Some days I feel so low that I can not even be bothered to get washed and dressed. The only time I go out is when I have to because I feel like everyone is staring and laughing at me.

So to the MN jury should I go back on the tablets or not.

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Mabelface · 24/06/2013 18:23

Go back on them. There is no shame or stigma about having low levels of seratonin in your brain. Getting the medication is a positive step to getting well and if your GP thinks you need them, he's the expert in these matters. Go and get well xxxxx

Boomba · 24/06/2013 18:24

I have
I love ADs
Fuck the stigma

BrokenBanana · 24/06/2013 18:24

Oh love Flowers depression is friggin horrible. No one can tell you whether you would be better off on ADs, that has to be your choice. Could you push for counselling? I know there's a long waiting list for it so you might as well get your name down for it now.

Do you have much RL support you could call upon?

neverputasockinatoaster · 24/06/2013 18:25

On Tuesday my ASD son lost control in the park and had to be manhandled to the car kicking and screaming and hitting me.
On Wednesday I broke down while cleaning my teeth and am now signed off work for a week with anxiety and depression.
I have just started taking ADs.

So, yes, absolutely take the medication. Use it as a tool to get you back on an even keel. THEN look into other ways to control your mood once you are well again.

I hope you feel better soon. xxx

BoysBoysBoysAndMe · 24/06/2013 18:26

Yes. I felt very similar to what you're describing g and didn't seek help for a long time. Medication made me feel like the old me again.

For me it was just the first step but it made a huge difference. I also had counselling but I felt much better by the time my counselling appointment arrived because of the medication.

In not on them anymore, and I feel great. Sometimes you need them and it sounds like you may. Hope it goes well for you

milktraylady · 24/06/2013 18:28

Nah don't stress about taking em.

Look on them as a stop gap sticking plaster to get your head in a better place.
Then you can work on fixing your head so your life is easier.

Baby steps, be nice to yourself.

valiumredhead · 24/06/2013 18:29

If you had a broken leg you wouldn't try and be heroic and manage without a cast, would you?

MagicBaguette · 24/06/2013 18:30

YANBU.

Do it!

Flowers
UnsureAndNameChanged · 24/06/2013 18:30

I have my husband and my sister I talk to. I don't know why I feel so ashamed to take the tablets as I haven't got nothing to be depressed about. I really don't know where it stems from.

I could ask for counselling, but how can I talk about something that I don't know myself.

I am just sick of feeling worthless and crying for no reason.

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ScarletLady02 · 24/06/2013 18:33

Give them a try...I've taken them and they didn't make a difference for me, but I know people who taken them and it's changed their life. The reason for your depression could be as simple as a chemical imbalance and the ADs might be really helpful.

MagicBaguette · 24/06/2013 18:34

A counsellor can help you work out if there's something deep down making you feel that way.

I've only been taking ADs for a few days but already feel an amazing difference.

I haven't cried once since being on them! And my anxiety is diminishing already.

valiumredhead · 24/06/2013 18:34

The counsellor will help you by discussing how you ate feeling and taking it from there. They don't expect you to tell them where it stems from, that's their jobSmile

RNJ3007 · 24/06/2013 18:35

hugs

YANBU.

Speaking as someone with severe clinical depression and anxiety, sometimes there isn't a 'reason', just your brain chemistry being out of whack.

I take a lot of criticism for being on tricyclics whilst pregnant, but frankly, being able to function is far more important that what others think!

Take care of you.x

Bue · 24/06/2013 18:36

There is no stigma attached to taking medication for these conditions. I'm a huge fan of medication when it is warranted - it helped lift me out of a period of debilitating anxiety and feel calm and normal again. OP, you would be so surprised at how many people you know who have been / are on tablets for mental health conditions!

UnsureAndNameChanged · 24/06/2013 18:37

Thank you for all of your responses. It is really helpful.

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mrsdrew · 24/06/2013 19:08

I work in mental health and take ADs. I refused to do this for years because I thought because of my job, I should be able to handle things better or deal with my issues (trauma related) on my own. I didn't even think I WAS depressed, I'd felt like that for so long that I had convinced myself I was just a miserable, hateful cunt. I tried Religion, various therapies and even clairvoyants in an attempt to feel better..everything except ADs!. Nobody I worked with had any idea and people were very surprised when it got so bad that it led to a series of events I couldn't hide. It is only now that I'm taking ADs that I know how I SHOULD feel. Happy, confident, sexy and able to deal with anything. I love my life so much now but my life hasn't changed (same job, house, family, finances etc), just my attitude to it has because now my brain is working the way it should. I wasted too much time avoiding meds. You have nothing to lose by trying them and potentially everything to gain. Hugs and good luck x

Graceparkhill · 24/06/2013 19:10

Please take the medication . If you were a diabetic you would take insulin .

sparklekitty · 24/06/2013 19:14

Medication (not AD but mood stabilisers) is the only reason I'm still here.

I know some people feel they should 'man it out' but I was once told by my psychiatrist that you wouldn't have that attitude towards an insulin dependent diabetic, or think someone weak for having a broken limb put in plaster. Same thing really. You have an illness, there isn't a cure but there are meds that can help you live a normal life.

Boomba is right, fuck what others think.

sparklekitty · 24/06/2013 19:15

x post Grace :) Maybe you are my old shrink :)

UnsureAndNameChanged · 24/06/2013 19:53

Putting into context of other medication it does seem rather silly not to take them.

I have written what I want to say to the doctors, because I know I will just tense up. Would this be ok or will the doctor think its not right.

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ColouringInQueen · 24/06/2013 19:58

That's a great idea unsure do take that with you - many people do the same.

Like you I've always tried to avoid ADs, but this year I was feeling similar to you and the GP recommended them, and I took them, and it was definitely the right decision. It took a while but I am coping better with day to day life than I was at the beginning of the year and the self-loathing is calming down. I am starting to enjoy things again instead of feeling like the grumpiest mum in the world.
Best of luck on Friday.

valiumredhead · 24/06/2013 20:00

I always make a list for the doctor !Smile

settingupforafuture · 24/06/2013 21:10

My advice would be to write everything you want the doctor to know, how you're feeling, when it started and if there's any patterns in it. They won't mind if you break down, that's what they're there for!! And if they offer you AD don't be ashamed, there's no shame in having an illness, get well soon Flowers

1Veryhungrycaterpillar · 24/06/2013 21:15

There is nothing you can do about chemical imbalances, you can't simply control yourself. Go back on them and don't feel ashamed x

KittensoftPuppydog · 24/06/2013 21:22

Try different tablets. There's more than one kind and it really can make a difference.

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