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aibu...upping sticks

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sweetsummerlove · 23/06/2013 19:17

I have this underlying reoccurring urge to see the world. I met DH v young, and we are still young (early and mid 20s) we have one DC of three.

We are home bodies. Are very family oriented which effects our lives in terms of where we live etc and has always influenced our moves etc.

am I living in a fantasy land. .I keep thinking about upping sticks to oz and living there for a year. I've never been but know lots who have done the same. DH works in a trade and I a nanny- people always need childcare right! ?

aibu to move my family across to the other side of the world and just to live a little? OH shot me down in flames but reckon if he thought it through and we did our research I could bring him around. While dc isn't school age we wouldn't be disrupting anything! ?

I reckon id be horribly homesick but I feel like if I stay in one place forever ill be missing out?!

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OwlinaTree · 23/06/2013 19:20

What do you mean you have 1 DC of 3?


sweetsummerlove · 23/06/2013 19:22

age 3- sorry!

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sweetsummerlove · 23/06/2013 19:23

I am a nanny* ..!

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OwlinaTree · 23/06/2013 19:25

That makes more sense!

Go for it of it's something you both want. It will be a great experience. Do a little research and present your findings, see how dh reacts.

If he's still really against it, then you will have to let it go I guess.


pesta · 23/06/2013 19:29

Yes, do it. You are still young, dc young and its only a year ! You never know what oppotunities it might lead to. I am 35 and wish I'd done it when I could.


inkyfingers · 23/06/2013 19:33

Can you not go for a year on a sort of working holiday? Leave the house with tenants or equivalent, so that you can pick up you old life if/when you come back. You can return earlier if you hate it, or stay longer if not. You may want to def return to UK, but know that you'd like to live more independently of family in another part of the UK. Who knows!?


sweetsummerlove · 23/06/2013 19:58

I have a suspicion DH company must have a office somewhere there, I might Google!

I guess I definitely know we'd come back. I'd miss alot, neices and nephews growing etc.

I keep meeting people who travelled or did alot in their younger years and it makes me feel like I've done nothing exciting! I also strongly feel that our dc who is a complete blessing deserves to have opportunities! I don't want her to stay here forever because our families will rarely travel further than a few hours away. I think im scared because it's not the norm for our nearest and dearest so it'd be a shock and not supported iyswim. People often imply that once you have children the opportunity to explore is gone. .I can't see what's wrong with embarking on adventures as a family?!

I also feel slightly crazy at the idea of moving somewhere we know little about!

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