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To think it's a bit strange to take photos of your child after an accident

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Sallystyle · 23/06/2013 14:57

Just opened FB and a friend's daughter was in a car accident last night.. thankfully she is ok.

She posted photos of her daughter sitting outside the car with blood pouring down her face and crying her eyes out, then she posted photos of her being put on the back board thing by the paramedics and then being carried into the ambulance.

Perhaps it is just me and I am trying not to be too judgey, but I don't quite understand taking photos of your child bleeding and very distressed with the paramedics just after a car accident.

I think it was very close to home as mum got there before paramedics.

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cocolepew · 23/06/2013 14:58

Very strange Hmm.

RVPisnomore · 23/06/2013 14:58

I've heard of people doing this when planning to sue!

NatashaBee · 23/06/2013 14:59

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TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong · 23/06/2013 14:59

Compensation of course. Poor child.

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Sallystyle · 23/06/2013 14:59

I just can't imagine even thinking of reaching for my phone to take a photo of my kid straight out of a car accident who is very clearly by the picture, crying her eyes out and looking very very scared.

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CatInWellies · 23/06/2013 15:03

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Finola1step · 23/06/2013 15:03

How old is the child? The only reason I ask is if the child is in fact a young adult and the driver of the car, then I could just about see the taking of photos as a wake up call. So posting such photos to warn other young drivers etc.

That said, I can not see any other reason. Even if the photos are for insurance purposes, why post them on fb?

TimeofChange · 23/06/2013 15:07

They are obviously planning to sue.
Though the Face book posting is really wierd.
Though I don't do FB at all - I think it really wierd.

whois · 23/06/2013 15:15

I thought you meant a photo later, one showing the big cast on an arm, or huge plaster on a chin or something, not while the child was all covered in blood and waiting for medical attention! That's seriously strange.

ExitPursuedByABear · 23/06/2013 15:16

Very odd.

MammaTJ · 23/06/2013 15:18

I posted a pic of my DS in his plaster cast. But I didn't take a pic of him immediately, and neither did DP who was with him at the time of his accident, he cuddled him, made him feel better, as any normal parent would.

mrsjay · 23/06/2013 15:20

I have had all sorts of injuries on my facebook I must have some weird friends TBF some are friends of friends, anyway I have seen a husband after an operation picture a manky infected foot picture a child with a bloody lip photo It is weird I dont get it and I tell the person if I can how horrible it is

WorraLiberty · 23/06/2013 15:21

Photos for compensation is one thing, but plastering them all over Facebook is quite another.

Like a sick kind of attention seeking.

PenguinBear · 23/06/2013 15:24

Think it depends on the age of the child. And yep I agree with others, photos will be used into sue someone!

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Sallystyle · 23/06/2013 15:24

The child must be around 17-18

She hasn't mentioned suing, just keep posting the pics and saying 'my poor baby :('

I have taken pictures of my child in her finger cast after she had an operation on her nail, I see plenty of those posts, but this is the first time I have seen photos of someone bleeding and crying at the scene of an accident while with the paramedics.

Mind you, I once remember reading about someone who was tweeting about their child's accident while they were waiting for help.

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RollerCola · 23/06/2013 15:25

I think sometimes people post photos after the event, once the child is all patched up in a sort of 'omg we've had the most awful day but everyone's ok now' kind of way.

But a) actually TAKING photos when their child is injured, bleeding and just about to get into an ambulance is wrong and severely attention-seeking imo, when they should be putting all their concentration into looking after the well being of their child,

and b) posting them on fb is also very wrong and unnecessary. No-one needs to see them.

StitchAteMySleep · 23/06/2013 15:26

I took a pic of my dd1's injuries, but only after she had been comforted and been to A&E and sent home. We used it to get compensation.

Taking photos whilst you child is in distress and not fully medically assessed is horrible, posting it on FB is weird.

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 23/06/2013 15:27

Most definitely for the claim they will make. I see it a lot in my job - I've seen some pretty graphic images of people in ambulances, in the A&E, at home the day after when bruising comes out etc. It's done to docment the injury and the progress of recovery which is part of how the claim is valued. I think it's just a reflection of the type of world we live in - photographic evidence is a big part of making claims/litigation and the better the evidence, the better for your claim. If you have a vague knowledge of this, it's more likely to be the 1st thing you think of - whereas others would be more interested in comforting their child!

As someone who deals with these kinds of things a lot, I'd always recommend taking photos of anything to do with an accident, because it makes my job easier. But that's just me Grin

RiotsNotDiets · 23/06/2013 15:28

That's really grim. I wouldn't want pictures of me in that state plastered over the internet. Really she should have been comforting her DD not getting her camera out and posting on fb.

FFS

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Sallystyle · 23/06/2013 15:29

Oh well, just went through her page and came across a status where she said she wishes people wouldn't post breastfeeding photos on fb Hmm

Defriended.

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AnnieLobeseder · 23/06/2013 15:29

Taking pics for insurace/compensation - fine.

Plastering them on FB - downright weird.

ihearsounds · 23/06/2013 15:30

People in shock do some pretty odd things. Not everyone acts the same way. The parent could have been taking the pics while her dd was being treated to keep herself busy and not get in the parademics way, when she wouldn't have been able to consol her dd without getting in their way. Some parents haven't got an ounce of empathy in their bodies and just think about me, me, me. Maybe the parent was over thinking in the event of an accident take as many pictures as possible.

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Sallystyle · 23/06/2013 15:33

There was one before the paramedics arrived where she was just sitting by the car so at that point they weren't there.

People are strange!

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Jamillalliamilli · 23/06/2013 15:36

I find it weird but CatinWellies mentions taking them in hospital.

I took photo's of my d/s fighting meningitis in hospital, and d/d with severe head injuries. In both cases I was absolutely terrified they'd be the last one's I had of them.

He has some residual damage and ASD and can be hard work, and she has been left a different person with extreme brain damage.

One of each in major trouble are still up, along with the 'normal' pics, many years later, to remind me (and their siblings) when either or both of them are being total goits, how much I love them however they are, how very lucky I am to still have them, and to keep the small stuff in perspective. Smile

bruffin · 23/06/2013 15:39

My friend took photos of her dds injurys. Doctors were really pleased as she could send them in advance, so they knew what expect in when she arrived at a&e and the consultants they saw later also had a reference point.