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LifeofPo · 22/06/2013 20:01
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with the word toxic. perhaps it's because you can catch unreasonable behaviour from relatives?SarahAndFuck · 22/06/2013 20:13
Toxic was being used like that long before Britney.
Ironically I gave my MIL an article about how to deal with toxic relationships about twelve years ago, several years before I then had to take the advice in it and cut her out of my life.
I actually thought you were going to blame her for that horrible schoolgirl outfit Caroline Flack was wearing tonight on Celebrity Millionaire. I was all set to agree with you on that one 
LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/06/2013 20:19
I absolutely agree with your OP but wouldn't put it at Britney's door. I'm sure she'd be appalled to have one of her best songs' theme lifted for the purposes of applying them to such mundane daily life.
I don't recall seeing the word used before Britney but it's certainly proliferated along with the other am-psych dribble spouted on chatboards everywhere.
Methe · 22/06/2013 21:55
I used to have a huge girl crush on Brit when she did the toxic vid.. Especially when she had one that blue air hostess getup.
Wrt Toxic [insert relatinship] - it's just slang for a person you don't get on with.. Because either they are an unreasonable twat, or you are.
Quite often when people one here talk about toxic relatives I think to myself that I'm not surprised they are hard work they have to put up with you.
Birdsgottafly · 22/06/2013 23:08
"Unless you are going to get seriously ill from contact with your db,ds,evil,dsil,dh,dm,Dr or dt or whatever the hell they are! They are NOT toxic"
When Bowlby put forward his theory on secure attachments, he also highlighted the problems faced when there was a poor attachment between a baby/child and a care giver. Then that was expanded on and there were very specific descriptions for what a "toxic" relationship is.
It does make you seriously unwell if you have toxic relationships inflicted upon you and not just mentally/psychologically unwell.
I agree that the phrase can be overused on here, as is the use of Psychopath and personality disorders, when enough isn't known to even start to decide what is going on.
Unless you are reasonably read on psychology/psychiatry theories, you may not of heard of many of these terms.
I think when Britney used it, she just meant dangerous.
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