To wish people wouldn't put headbands on babies?

[SusuwatariToes]

I hate wearing headbands. I last about an hour before the pressure behind my ears really gets to me.

Once they are old enough to figure out how, they will pull them off at every opportunity. They clearly don't like to wear them.

I know people think they are cute but babies are already cute! Little boys aren't put through this torture. AIBU?

[1Veryhungrycaterpillar]

Even sequins?

[expatinscotland]

YABU. Might not bother them the way it bothers you.

I never put them on my two girls when they were babies: the elder one was born with loads of hair in a very warm summer and the the other was bald, but it was winter so she was in hats most of the time.

[1Veryhungrycaterpillar]

Was that a positive review or a negative Sparkling? not sure what people look for in a glued on bow!

[RoooneyMara]

EVEN SEQUINS

[theodorakisses]

Rooney, I know this doesn't happen often but I agree with what you just said 100%. In fact, you have said all that is needed. I'm off for a swim, have a nice day

[Sparklingbrook]

I think if the baby is sat there quite happily with said headband then it's safe to assume it isn't bothering them TBH.

[RoooneyMara]

Enjoy your swim Theodora

[Shellywelly1973]

This thread opitimises MN!

[expatinscotland]

Fatty, DD1 had hair like that, too. LOADS of curls. I pinned it back with hair baubbles/grips and she had bunches from the time she was about 1. Couldn't care less what people thought and no, I wasn't cutting it.

[1Veryhungrycaterpillar]

Adore babies with tons of hair, adore baldy bonces too

[RoooneyMara]

the thing where people put their baby's hair in a tiny pony tail on top of their head looks really sore.

I can't have a high ponytail without getting a headache when I take it down - you know, when all the follicles are left feeling like they are pointing the wrong way.

It makes me wince when I see a baby with one of those

[RoooneyMara]

I also think it is a bit of a feminist issue.

A bit like women feeling compelled or obligated to wear make up for the benefit of other people - looking pretty even if they are not comfortable.

Mind you people put little boys in uncomfortable stuff too - trainers for tiny non walking feet, and things with tight waistbands and unyielding fabric (yes denim) and so on. Baseball caps. I could go on.

[usualsuspect]

I used to put my DDs hair up in a pony tail, she had loads of mad curly hair.

Who knew that the MN masses were judging that too.

Thank fuck I wasn't on MN when my kids were babies,I appear to have done everything wrong

[SpecialAgentTattooedQueen]

Oh God YANBU, I never get why it's done to 'hide' a baby's baldness... Makes them look balder IMO!

I think they're quite gaudy, they remind me a bit of when it's Christmas and people wrap tinsal hats/tat/etc around their heads!

[Sparklingbrook]

Me too usual. Try not to think of all our mistakes. My youngest was 10 when I joined MN.

[expatinscotland]

A feminist issue? WTF? I dressed my kids in clothes I liked. Never thought, 'Oh, can't put that on her, it might go against feminism.'

[namechangea]

For clarity, although not sure why I'm bothering my arse, I believe it was me who introduced the term chavvy to this discussion.

I was referring to the item being chavvy and shite not a baby. The baby can't be chavvy as their clothes and accessories are not their own choices. They can be made to wear clothes of a chavvy nature though.

Now let's untwist some knickers and spend some quality time sympathising with my sleep deprivation (screamin, teething baby I got about 1 hr 20 mins).

[RoooneyMara]

I'm not judging the pony tails - not as such. I just assume the parents haven't thought they might hurt - why would anyone do it if they were aware it hurt their baby? But I do think they must hurt.

[usualsuspect]

I'm laughing at the feminist angle, only on MN.

[RoooneyMara]

Nowhere else could I ever even go there. Indulge me, please

[Fairenuff]

I think it's ok if the band isn't too tight. No-one would think twice about putting a sunhat on their child's head so it's only the appearance that people object to.

And everyone has a different opinion of what looks good. You only have to look back at what your own parents dressed you in to see that in ten years time, all your outfits and hairstyles will look comical regardless of what you wore

In fact, the more fashionable you are right now, the dafter you will look in photos later on when fashion moves on.

[expatinscotland]

'I just assume the parents haven't thought they might hurt - why would anyone do it if they were aware it hurt their baby? But I do think they must hurt.'

It hurts you. That doesn't mean it hurts anyone else. Baby hair doesn't weigh as much as adult hair, either.

[usualsuspect]

My knickers always twist at terms like 'chavvy shite'

Sorry about that.

[namechangea]

Usual maybe you are lucky and are small of arse. 7 months after having DD2 there is not enough material covering my arse to twist.

[Mintyy]

Me too usual. I joined when youngest dc was 4 and I felt reasonably confident about what I was doing by then (probably still made and making loads of mistakes!!) but who knew there could be so many thousands of ways in which you can be judged as a parent? Apparently some people get worked up about toddler reins!?!?!

Imvho you should only judge parents who are abusive and neglectful. Those two cover a whole multitude of sins. For everything else, how about a little bit of live and let live eh?