AIBU to be annoyed

[Trainblame]

On the train with DH and my bag is next to me, covered by my cardi and jacket. Inside are some of his things I've been carrying including his Kindle.

Suddenly he starts rooting through my bag so I ask if he needs anything. He asks to have his Kindle, and I say he could of asked before rooting around in my bag.

Later he accuses of me of snapping at him and that everyone in the carriage felt bad for him. Although there's nothing private in there, AIBU not to want him to dive into my bag and push my caddie etc aside?

Fight ensues etcetera in car from station. AIBU?

What do you all keep in your handbags that is so private/precious? Secret cake? A concealed booze habit?

I might be a bit fed up if it was my hand bag, I do know what you mean. On the other hand I absolutely cannot bear to be snapped at or "told off" by my dp in public. I find it really embarrassing and she knows that so rarely starts a row when we are out. If you really did tell him off in a raised voice in a train carriage I would've felt sorry for him too.

Personally, I wouldn't like it if someone rooted in my handbag. But equally, I wouldn't like it if someone got snappish with me.

Have you been married long? Is this really about setting the boundaries in the relationship?

I don't keep anything private or precious in my handbag. However I like to keep my bag neat and organised, and my DH scraps through a bag or a drawer like a dog digging a hole. That's the sole reason why I don't like DH, the kids, or anyone else for that matter, going through my bag. OP's reasons may be different though

Same here wine. My bag is very organised and when dh went through it he rummaged with his big paw as if he were sorting rubble from bricks.
Get off you big lunk!!

No, wine I'd have wondered why he was with someonemwho would tell him off so publicly over nothing. Doesn't sound much of a marriage to me.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If we're out my dh often puts things in my bag and he can fish around with all the receipts and other useless rubbish I have in it for as long as he wants. In fact he can root around anywhere he pleases whether it's my phone or knicker drawer, I don't have anything I wouldn't want him to see so have no problem with it at all.

How petty of you to snap at him and even more so to dwell on it and post on here.

I don't want someone going through my bag anymore than I want them opening my post. Both things are private afaic.

YANBU

My DH never looks In my bag, he claims it's ungentlemanly. I think that's cute but a little strange.

OccasionalTherapy

I think what he did wasn't that bad in itself really - after all he was just looking for his kindle, not rooting through your bag for the hell of it. The fact that you were so pissed off would indicate that there's something else bothering you about him deep down (armchair psychologist - ignore if I'm way off the mark!!)