to expect friends to actually include you in their plans?

[RainbowThistle]

A group of friends ( or at least i thought they were) have recently stopped including me in any plans, family camps collective fancy dress competition, birthdays, bbqs. Not sure what I've done to offend them all but dont you think its a bit cheeky for them to organise an entry into the local festival fancy dress ( that about 40 of us normally do each year) not tell me anything. lie when asked if its happening this year and then ask to borrrow some of my equipment in order to make the fancy dress competitions!!! time to ditch them from the friends list i think. they seem to have dont it already

Wow! I can't believe they have ditched you and yet want to borrow your things?? I hope you told them where to get off! I wonder what you have done? You need to find out!

Have you actually asked them what the problem is, and if not, why not?

nope havent asked them if there is a problem. they havent really contacted me now since about august last year apart from to discuss school type issues. not sure if i have the strength of will to bother finding out why they are to be honest. I've invited them round to my house on a few occasions for drinks but nothing.

What did you say when they asked to borrow your stuff?

Get rid.

Life is too short and ask why they haven't included you. Your gut instinct will tell you.

They haven't contacted you, or you have not contacted them?

I'm seeing two friends tonight - I'm seeing one of them tomorrow as well but haven't mentioned it to the other I've as I've not seen her for months despite repeated offers to meet up.